If it helps, I have two children, two different dads (I know, the stigma!) And neither has really done much.. my oldests dad has recently started paying csa directly to her as I contacted them, he told me he couldn’t afford what they were asking so he’s paying less than 50%. I decided she should have it so technically it’s of no help to me, does allow her to learn to budget though. He hasn’t seen her since she was 3(?) She’s 12 now. Though a conversation for the first time last month he was implying it’s his wife’s fault and she sounds like a control freak.
My sons dad was abusive so there’s been no contact since he was born. I didn’t really want anything from him, but friends of mine went on so much at me about how his dad should be helping I gave in and told them to just fill in a CSA application for me. I doubt I’ll see anything because I don’t even think he works.
It’s hard raising kids alone, but you are, and that’s an amazing thing to do. I find occasionally I’ll feel down about it, but I’ll then look at doing things we enjoy as a family and it always cheers me up, like walks in the countryside or days out in a theme park. Though, one thing that did kick my bum, that I will never try doing singlehandedly with the kids again is going abroad 😂😂😂 most anxious I’ve been!
