[Emmanewlife]

Hi,

Thanks for messaging me. It’s really good to hear from other people going through it, although sad too that you are suffering.

My ex is just completely switched off to me, well I’d even go so far as to say deliberately heartless. I went to ny friends house last night. I got home at 10.15 to find Sam wasn’t home. I knew he was going to the park with his Dad. 10.30 came, still no sign. I rang and messaged my husband but nothing back. I was starting to get quite anxious. He rocked up at 10.50, not a word said to me. I asked him if he could get in touch with me in future and let me know if they’re going to be late. You’d think I’d asked him for the earth. He just doesn’t give a monkey’s about my feelings or concerns. It’s making me realise how I’m better off without him but it’s not pleasant at all.

I’ve been at work today and I’m trying to keep myself busy. Weekends are always the hardest.

How are you doing? How old are your children? Do you work? I wish my family were close by xxx

[Emmanewlife]

Hi,

I know exactly how you feel. My husband left mw after 21 years together. Sadly my daughter now lives at her grandparents with he Dad. I suffered a mental health breakdown last year and my husband and in-laws decided it was ok for her to stay there. She won’t speak to me and blames me for eveything. She’s 13 and I know it’s a difficult age. I’m at home with my 15 year old autistic son who is becoming regularly abusive towards me when his Dad is there.

I’m desperate to have a relationship with my daughter but her Dad and my in-laws let her do what she wants and are very softly softly with her. And it’s tearing me apart. My ex also wants our son 50% of the time. It’s all left me heartbroken.

[Emmanewlife]

Hi all,

l’ve been reading all your posts and it’s left me feeling really sad that there are so many other parents feeling lost and lonely like me.

I’m sure I’m like many of you feel like I’m a burden to my friends. They say not, bless them. My mum and sister live 80 and 60 miles away. I know it’s not that far away but my ex is living with his parents and I so envy him. I guess it’s that unconditional love that I’m missing, when I can totally be myself and not walk on eggshells, or listen to someone saying I’m not nice and when I tell him I love him he throws it back in my face saying ” you don’t love me” And not to mention him blaming me for my behavior when I’ve had a breakdown. Telling me it’s not due to my illness I’m just a bad person.

I know I deserve better but I still love him and I crave that bond we once had, not to mention our little family unit. I feel so bereft. My mum once gave me some good advice after a relationship breakdown. She said it was like grief when a loved one dies, you have to grieve that person and your relationship.

If anyone out there wants to meet up and just talk I’m based near Leeds. I know we have to be careful and be safe. And as much as it’s great to chat online it’s not the same as meeting up.

The truth is I just can’t bare to be in the house without my husband and daughter. We’ve gone from a family of 4 to a family of 2. The house feels so empty.

 

[Emmanewlife]

I know exactly how you feel. My husband has left me after 21 years of being together. We have a 15  year old autistic son who’s in the family home with me and my 13 year old daughter is staying at her grandparents with her Dad ( she hasn’t spoken to me in 3 months )

I feel completely lost and overwhelmed.

Sam loves both of us but it’s always me he has a meltdown with as I’m the “talker ” He tells me to “f… off” and “sell the house to Dad”

I am having to sell the family home because my ex husband wants his own place. I feel like I’ve lost my entire life.

It’s truly horrendous.

I miss my daughter so much and it breaks my heart. She sees me as a monster due to some things that happened when I wasn’t going throughout a mental health breakdown. I thought I’d hit rock bottom last year and now it feels like I’m living in a nightmare.

I’ve been a member of my husband’s family for 21 years and they’ve been in my life on a daily basis. Now I’ve been cast out and it hurts like hell. My daughters has been allowed to live with then for far too long against my wishes.

I’m scared about everything.

Financially I only earn £16,500 whilst my husband earns £51,000. Now I will have to work more as well as getting over a mental health breakdown. And take out a mortgage.

I cry everyday and just feel so alone.

 

[Emmanewlife]

Hi all,

It’s been another tough week. I asked my  husband to come home but he said no. Sam started shouting at me again and telling me to leave. Autism is hard to stomach. I never thought we’d ever not be a family together. We’ve always stuck together and fought long and hard for Sam. It’s so scary thinking about doing it alone.

On a postive note Sam has got a place at the post 16 college we wanted. We’re still waiting to see if he can go residential. I cried when John told me the news. It’s bittersweet especially if Sam goes residential, it would’ve been a new lease of life for us as a couple.

Has anyone else been in my position? My 2 best friends have autistic children and both their marriages broke down.

Sorry for the sad message!

[Emmanewlife]

Hi Niya,

I know exactly how you feel. My husband has left me after 21 years of being together. We have a 15  year old autistic son who’s in the family home with me and my 13 year old daughter is staying at her grandparents with her Dad ( she hasn’t spoken to me in 3 months )

I feel completely lost and overwhelmed. As well as eveything that’s going on with the separation I am waiting to hear whether my son Sam has got a post 16 place.

Sam loves both of us but it’s always me he has a meltdown with as I’m the “talker ” He tells me to “f… off” and “sell the house to Dad”

I am having to sell the family home because my ex husband wants his own place. I feel like I’ve lost my entire life.

It’s truly horrendous.

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