[Djr]

sorry to hear what you are going through! Firstly if you taking your son abroad and he has parental rights you have to obtain his permission to leave the country otherwise it is against the law, however if you get a live with order you can take your child without consent up to 28 days . It sounds like you need to get an child arrangement order in place, if you don’t work you should be able to get some sort of aid with legal advice and there are plenty of charities who can give free advice.  Keep all the messages and emails to show behaviours there are not acceptable, also in the meantime you implement times/ weekends etc with him and if he doesn’t show up that’s up to him! It sounds like u have a rough road ahead however I have been through this myself and I promise it does get better! Trust the process! All the best

[Djr]

I don’t think he will get a live with order, why don’t u go for every weekend ? Try not to worry I know it’s scary but u will be fine

[Djr]

You will be fine I didn’t have all the details and got my kids passport just fine I do recommend doing the renewal online I did and ha the passports back in two weeks

[Djr]

I would recommend that you now take the next step and get a child arrangement order! I would also ask for a section 7 report to be done for the children! I have been through both myself and my ex told so many lies about me and how I am as a mother! Cafcass  did a report and I can’t tell you how cafcass was such a good support for me! After all the court proceedings I was awarded a live with order and cafcass saw through all his BS

 

 

[Djr]

Hi I’m going through the same thing with my 13 nearly 14 year old daughter I’m being taken to court for access even though she wants nothing to do with him for a lot of reasons any advice greatly appreciated

[Djr]

That’s good to hear ur focusing well, even if it’s work lol. Unfortunately we can’t change the way some people are, but we can learn to deal with differently.  When u feel angry write it down get it out it and then throw it away! How I deal with it I look at my life I see my children everyday hear there stories when they come home from school, tuck them in bed at night and lots of mummy cuddles. My ex doesn’t see that and that was his choice! I finally am free and I remember the girl I am who was lost for such a long time! The one thing I promised myself that my ex wouldn’t damage me and when I meet someone I plan to give it my all and not be afraid of anything! So put yr crown back on and remind everyone the queen you are!  You got this!

[Djr]

You are not a machine remember that! I know what ur going through and I’ve been there! The anger and resentment will only eat at you make you bitter! Don’t let it take over your life.  When people walk out of your life let them walk! Focus on you and your children at the weekends  when you don’t have the children go for a walk meet a friend  do all those things u don’t get to have time to do normally. When we have children we lose sight of the person we are because are full attention is always on the children and that’s okay however  , your not just mum so give your self a break. Enjoy your time x

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