[0lo5eno]

Digging deep for England, it’s like a mantra on loop in my head. I empathise with you your situation sounds awful. I came on here to offload too so tired of finding financial solutions and appearing to accept that my ex (addict) H soon to be (I paid for the divorce) cannot contribute and does not pay £7 per week as set by the CSA. He will soon be playing happy families and sharing rent with his new GF. I know I’m better off I don’t miss him but I wish I didn’t resent him having someone  and playing happy families with my excellent kid. I can’t shake the anger its always there and its been 2 years.

[0lo5eno]

That’s the thing – between you and Nat both hit the nail on the head. I had been unhappy for 4 years (18 married at the time) he was never around working away from home back to back. It was literally Christmas and lockdown for family time. I attended his family events alone with my daughter on numerous occasions. This second wave of grief is about the loss of the family and it hurt so much more to see them dine with his new girlfriend in their midst at Christmas. Literally going cold turkey not looking at the group on my daughter’s phone. As for dating arghhh I’m old skool I took a look at my nephews hinge (19)and a friends (57) big difference I’m 51 it put me off! It’s a young persons thing (photos are not kind) plus I’m left holding the kiddo no reliable co parenting or child support to work with.  I go out a couple of times per month but I need the divorce first. I have to find the cash!

Thanks for responses

 

[0lo5eno]

Argh it will be 2 years officially since my husband and I separated in May. Moving on means finally leaving a 20 strong family whats app group where his new girlfriend dined with his family. So humiliating and disrespectful I think it was meant for me to see she is no patch 😅 but it back fired horribly as I felt embarrassed pitied and compared. What is Moving on? As a single mother of  a secondary school aged daughter I feel as though I’m always issuing invites or waiting to be invited.

Can anyone relate?

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