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Hi Maisie im new here just come across your post , I know right now may seem at your wits end and in “a bad place”. but it will get better , you should be able to qualify as single person on uc and that should top up your income , housing aswell think have go thru your council for that , if on uc talk to your work coach or call them up and explain to them your now on your own and have child see if able to help you or work out the income your entitled too.  I understand its a BIG worry and added stress – Especially with a little one . you can do it 😊 keep calm, and focus on your little one its amazing how much strength they give us to fight on even if they do keep you up or night. but dont forget time to your self your well being matters too,  loads of advice on this site so sure they will be able to help you sort out the situation x.

 

feel free to message me .  focus on your littles one 1st birthday lovely goal to celebrate and enjoy x

 

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I got bullied into going back to work early than wanted and ready to by UC . my child 3 and only really me and few hours at nursery childcare wise . so between nursery and being made to go back to work with stupid job meetings weekly -i don’t drive had to travel 45mins  each way for pointless 10min meeting to ask if found anything am i looking was a p take when i have no relevant childcare, my child doesnt even start school til sept, I was pushed to get part time job … altho im sure as  parent single you only need to find a 16hrs Job not sure why 25hr may need to check that i cld b wrong .   But i now have a part time job and yes the over whelming load of that on top of looking after a toddler is making me ill . i am currently off work with ill health as we speak.  But the pain of finding a job within school hours wasnt an easy quest but i notice in my current job a lot of the domestic staff at the care home are school hours or maybe look at school vacancies maybe an idea. or even cleaning,  Goodluck in your quest .

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I can relate to this my childs ‘biological father ‘ doesnt really bother with my (his) child and only seem to get in touch to play mind games with me asking to see “his child” but then never really followed through with it or came up with an excuse and then would go months on without contact ,until he needed an ego boost or play mind games with me once again (i kept my child away as best i could not outta spite but from the emotional and wellbeing  until he wanted to be a constant part of my child life) but ive recently found out he is now with someone else which I have no issue with in fact im relieved but it did and does hurt and break my heart on my childs behalf to find out he is with someone who has a child the same age as mine / his own and he never bothered with and only seen a handful of times as a baby  ,think last time was before covid for like 20 mins ,when my child was probably 9mths -1yr old .   But yeah i do feel so sad , and bit angry on and for my child behalf.   But then i remember its his lost not my child’s. Although he is at the age where noticing all the other children have 2 parents picking up at nursery/school and lot of dads around.

wish could offer advice but i dont know what to say but keep up what your doing its hard enough doing parenting on your own dont waste time/energy chasing others . they have you and thats what matters 😊. (feel free to message me )

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Hi ive just joined and seen your post , i have little one (4) whom i think is on the spectrum but its so hard to get anyone to listen to me as im pretty sure he masks when at nursery or they dont notice it like i do. Anyway i just wanted to say hi and let you know your not alone ..feel free to message me

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