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    Richj
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    That’s cool, pretty hard dating while your under the same roof atm anyway lol

    #33170 Report

    Richj
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    just Remember your needs are just as important as hers and compromise is a 2 way street, if it only works for her it’s unfair. So stay strong and think about what you want, also make some sticking points and points that your willing to be flexible with my wife fell out of love with me but at least she’s been pretty fair with things, don’t let her rush you for some affair , your a person too and it’s unfair to just sweep you under the carpet as quick as possible to suit her. If my wife/ex said anything below fairness with out little girl I’d fight till I was blue in the face, thankfully I’m not in that situation. But fight for your needs because sometimes no one else will

    #33169 Report

    Richj
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    Although mr and my wife rent we are still living together even tho I’m in the sofa, my only advice is focus on your next step and just remember it will get easier, me and wife I feel have probably become better friends in a weird way even tho at first it was very hard but I said she can stay here until she finds a place as at the end of the day she’s the mother of my child and her fate effects my little one so I’m being a gent and trying to be as fair as possible, hopefully you can sell the house sooner then later, but for now just remember it’s only a short term thing and hopefully things will change before the feelings get hostile

    #33067 Report

    Richj
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    I’m sorry your in that situation it can’t be easy, but stay strong and remember at some point your girl is gonna find out about this all one way or another and she will give you a hug and a kiss and look at you and say thank you mum I’m proud of you.

    look after yourself and look after your child, if your allowing  him to see her and he doesn’t then in the future that’s gonna come around and bite him in the ass, just do right by your child and you can’t go wrong.

     

    stay strong x

     

    #33057 Report

    Richj
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    That’s cool, again it’s not something I can imagine right now I’m heart broken atm and there’s so much stuff to sort out before I even look towards dating again, defo can’t do a rebound thing need time to heal but still good to know.

     

     

    #33048 Report

    Richj
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    Thankyou that will be helpful

    #33039 Report

    Richj
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    This is gonna be a long 2 years then, if your legally separated tho are you allowed?

    #33033 Report

    Richj
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    I have been the same feeling lonely in the evenings but it’s getting easier now the feeling of grief is parting me and now I feel I can at least focus on stuff, if you need a friend I’m always free for a chat, I feel like I have more time then I have use for but I understand you get those moments out of nowhere when you feel low and lonely Iv had it twice lately when Iv even been surrounded by my friends, this website has defo helped speaking to people in similar situations

     

    #33027 Report

    Richj
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    Thanks buddy

    #33023 Report

    Richj
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    Maybe it’s wishful thinking but where we are still friendly I’m hoping that the split will be quite easy even tho I can see her saying I want to take this and want to take that which I’m worried will gut our home in half, but again my little girl needs another home as well so I’m not too worried about that, if we were 50-50 with our little one do we need to pay child maintenance? If we both look after her I don’t know how it would work

    #33022 Report

    Richj
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    Thanks guys for the reply’s, Iv been speaking to my ex wife’s(sounds weird saying that as it’s not been long that we have been separated) who I have to say has been the best mother in law you could ask for and she’s sort of said you should stay where you are and her move out as she has to learn to deal with the real world now and my mate also said she’s the one that’s ended all of this so why should I move out and loose my security because of how she feels, but I’m trying my best to not get to a point scoring position as that’s not gonna be in my daughters best interests (mine maybe), I know il get there in the end it’s just annoying I feel like I have to wait for the wife to sort herself out and figure out what she’s gonna do before I can sort out what I’m gonna do.

    #32971 Report

    Richj
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    Sounds similar to me and my situation I agreed to a mutual split but I’d be lying if I said that’s what I wanted, I’m still living in the same place as my wife which probably makes it a lot harder and like you said there is this coldness and it sucks, and it hurts I feel like I’m just in the way of my wife now and a problem rather then her husband who she said she loved for 7years, if you wanna chat message me, I’m in the same boat where I just feel lonely as hell and my heads all over the place and it’s hard to move forward when your head can’t find the way to go, stay strong.

    Rich

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