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    I came out of a controlling relationship a year ago.

    My daughter is at the start of senco involvement in school, due to some adhd traits she has, although only at the begining of the process, but guess what we are still here and doing just fine, despite her dad who still does have pa not being around at all and ultimately vanished. We are thriving, though I still carry the hurt and emotions from 7 years of not being me and ultimately having my identity beaten out of me to the stage my whole existence day to day was numb.

     

    I recieved support post break up from my local domestic abuse service, the school can usually put you in touch with these services and will know where they are, etc..  They may be able to refer to shelters, etc. While you get on your feet again ultimately aiming for housing. The teams I spoke to where an amazing support and I should have taken more help but was too scared to. They don’t judge but may be good for you to know where to start.

    Women’s aid can put you in touch with local services too.

    It’s been a really tough year. Finances are not brilliant, but we get by and if and when you get out, if your anything like me and think things over stuff will keep coming up which makes you question the whole relationship.self doubts and all kinds but honestly you’ll come out a survivor.

    #88411

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    Jm up for it so long as it Fits around work shifts and my 6 year old 

    #66307

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    I think it’s time plans would ultimatly have to change around contact to allow for evolving life circumstance.

    Maybe negotiate, so try find something where you would be free a few evenings a week for pick ups and after school club the others so you can work. Ideally you would be able to find a job which allows for every school run but there few and far between.

    Think of the long term, you will have more money to support your son long term and financially being better off is being responsible and is better for the child. The contact plans may have to change to suit this as harsh as it sounds for you to work so you need to find a way with new hours to make it work.

    I do 30 hours a week, supplemented by universal credit (luckily I have parents to do school runs,on these days, otherwise it would be school clubs) but I can do some school runs still so half the week I am free in the evenings as normal. It’s got to be a give and take. If I didn’t work we would be a lot worse off and I’d struggle to provide.

    #66020

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    I’m on the wirral 😉

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