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    pinnelly
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    Hi I have just found this thread

    I live in North Somerset between Bristol and Weston, I would love to make some friends in the area. I don’t drive but can catch the bus or train, if you have another meeting could I come and say Hi 👋

    #14526 Report

    pinnelly
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    Hi Marr

    I started retraining with my part time job when my daughter was at preschool, 3 years on and I have finally finished! I did courses and qualifications through learndirect, with a personal tutor, not with the OU but there was lots of study to do at home. I would definitely recommend home studying as they are always understanding of you if you need extra time of you explain your situation.

    It was tough at times but definitely worth it in the end and the sense of achievement did wonders for my self esteem and confidence. Good luck with your decision!

    #14525 Report

    pinnelly
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    Hi Jo45

    I had similar problems with my housing 7 years ago when I moved back to North Somerset from Coventry whilst pregnant to stay with my parents, after leaving my alcoholic ex. Have you tried going to the Citizens Advice Beareau, there is usually one surgery a week in  every town. Look on their website for your local one. They have people that can set you in the right direction for most topics, I have always found them very helpful.

    Eventually I got a decent housing officer who put me in touch with a private landlord who had a house that they couldn’t rent or sell their property and were willing to take a family with housing benefit. They also run a deposit scheme in some areas where you pay a small amount to the council every month and they guarantee your deposit. This did happen though as they forced my dad to sign a statement to say he was making me homeless (which he was devastated about). I may have had to be placed in family temporary accommodation, but would have waited ages for social housing.

    All was great till the landlord decided to put the rent up from a decent, affordable amount to an amount more in line with the ridiculous rents being charged in my area now. So almost back to square one again I think, but I will definitely be paying a visit to the CAB for help! Hope you can get something  resolved.

    #11934 Report

    pinnelly
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    Hi Galee 74

    Have you tried the support group Gemini? They work with all people who have suffered any type of domestic abuse. They may have some practical advice for you. You could speak to citizens advice as well, they have always been helpful to me. Hope you can resolve your access issues!

     

    #11896 Report

    pinnelly
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    Hi rl1991

    I retrained when my daughter was 4 and I did 2 in work apprenticeships through my job at the local children’s centre. You have to be careful about what sort of training you take on as it may affect any benefits you receive. I was working under the 16 hour threshold for a year while I took my level two in childcare so was still getting income support (universal credit has not been fully rolled out where I live at the time).

    I had to get some experience first of all before I could apply for any jobs in the sector so volunteered for a year and a half while my daughter was at preschool at the children s centre at several groups and the baby clinic and also at my daughter’s preschool. I then applied for the job on the proviso I did the qualifications.

    If you go through a college or home learning company you will have to do placements while you study. You will also need to do a level 3 early years educator qualification as most childcare establishments ask for this as a minimum (this will require you to work more hours than level 2).

    There is the choice of doing childbearing in your home or someone else’s like a nanny, but I don’t know anything about that. You could probably find information from your local children’s centre, college, library or job centre.

    You may also have to take core skills exams alongside your childcare qualification which are maths, English and always IT depending on when you did your qualifications at school and what grades you got, as there are some minimum qualification requirements on these courses now.

    It was a really hard slog with  home, going back to work and studying to fit in as there is regular written and homework however you do it and sorting out the money side of it all was tricky and long winded but so worth it in the end. I started off with 2 part time jobs to make up the hours but once I got I going O soon picked up more hours at one place so I could give up the other.

    Things you need to think about whether you are working full of part time hours are what sort of contract you are being offered….is it term time only and if it is, will you be paid in 12 monthly payments or only the months you work and what times you start finish as lots of places offer early starts and late finishes.

    If you wanted to work with s school age children, you can do similar  qualifications for being a learning support assistant. You will.have to do placements for these as well.

    Hope this has all been helpful, if you can do it if is well worth it. Such a rewarding job!!

    #11875 Report

    pinnelly
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    Hi Little Monkey

    Have been trying to PM you but don’t seem to be able to get it through to you! can you PM me your username so I can reply.

    Thanks, speak soon

    Pinnelly xx

    #11864 Report

    pinnelly
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    Sorry I didn’t explain, Addaction are a group of people who provide recovery support for Addicts and their family and friends. This isn’t based on a twelve step programme like A A. Most main county towns and cities have an Addaction unit.

     

    #11863 Report

    pinnelly
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    Hi 1965 snj

    I have been separated from my alcoholic ex parter for 6 years. I left him w hen I  was pregnant. I have spent the last 6 years struggling with hi m letting my daughter down and her subsequent upset and this year it all came to a head when he once again let her down and didn’t come for another visit (which was the first one in over 2 years). She was devastated! In desperation I contacted my local Addaction group who also have a family and friends support facility. They have been absolutely fantastic and helped me with advice surrounding access and what effects this would all have on my child. I have also met other family members of addicts which has been a real support. I found their number on line and had an initial meeting very quickly. It is the best thing I have ever done (they also suggested this site to me!). It may be worth getting in touch with your closest group with friends and family support. If your most local group doesn’t have this support itself they may be able to point you to somewhere that does.

    Hope this is of some help to you.

    #11862 Report

    pinnelly
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    Hi little monkey

    I live in the WSM area and have also been looking for a group  but unable to find one closer than Yate.

    I am a single mum to my six year old daughter and this is my first day on the forum. I only have one single parent friend I know well and have been a bit desperate to talk to others in the same boat as me!

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