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25 December 2019 at 4:28 pm #34422
Thank you Ali.
I dont know you but i feel i love you already. Thanks again
Mark25 December 2019 at 12:49 pm #34415
Hope your day going well? Please dont feel too down. At least try not to. Its xmas day today and my 2 little boys are fine but my daughter misses her mum soooo much. She been crying and been in her room for 2 hours now. Im trying to prise her out of there but she just misses her too much. We all do. This year has been her worse xmas ever. Mine too. Im still going to cook them the best xmas dinner they have ever had! Well thats the plan anyway. ( thank god for slow cookers). Hope xmas Eve settled for you . Have the best Christmas you can ! You can only do so much x22 December 2019 at 4:28 pm #34317
Vent the anger away. Its fine. Maybe you need to find time for you (and your children). Dont engage with them unless you absolutely need to. But hey thats just me talking,only you will know whats best for you guys. Dont feel left out. You own yourself, you own your children, you own your life. They dont. Maybe im just speaking from my own personal experience . Take it easy and feel free to message x22 December 2019 at 8:21 am #34308
Christmas is an added pressure i guess you dont need right now. I know that feeling for sure. Its not really my place to ask but do the children understand what your going through right now? It may help if they know. If their old enough to understand then maybe they can help you through? I know what you mean about not knowing what to tackle first. Ive a list of things to do that are important and yet the more things there are the more it confuses me ! Hope you have a great xmas and at the end of xmas day put your feet up, have a glass of red and congratulate yourself on a job well done.22 December 2019 at 8:07 am #34307
Thank you. Ive been considering reducing my hours further trouble is i only do 5 now and with the petrol/travelling costs of getting to my place of work and home again financially its not really an option. Also work have considered 5 hours to be a minimum for me as that suits them too. They also arent keen on me taking too much time off. To be honest ive been fed up with my work for a while now and a break would be so nice. May even start up a little gardening business or spend more time on allotment with the kids. May even take them to Disney during their holidays . I can but dream. Thank you again for your post appreciate it x21 December 2019 at 4:14 pm #34274
This is exactly the reason that this site exists. To help. To reach out. To understand. Dont think your alone because you are not. Others maybe can advise you better but please dont feel alone. We are in it together. For the long haul. As one. x21 December 2019 at 3:22 pm #34272
Thank You x21 December 2019 at 3:18 pm #34271
Erm…maybe better off not engaging with the games but then again i dont fully know the circumstances. Ive always found that not engaging helps however i realise that may be different for you. Have you thought of ignoring the cards? Thats just my way and realise it may not be yours. Disengage, ignore call it what you will. The games are done. Bye Bye .21 December 2019 at 12:28 pm #34269
Wow that must have been hard for you ! Now he doesnt want to see his daughter after all is the end of the fight? I certainly hope so ! 4 years is a long time and can take a strain on emotional health for sure. Hopefully both you and your daughter come through this and maybe even learn a little from it? Good luck in all you do….x21 December 2019 at 9:22 am #34266
Welcome to the site. I find the site to be helpful and ive learnt a lot in my short time here. Hopefully you will enjoy it too !
Mark20 December 2019 at 10:11 am #34230
There are many cameras out there that will do a great job . It would give you peace of mind thats for sure. I guess you dont know the babysitter too well? i shouldnt really suggest one camera over another but can tell you from experience (when my mum needed carers) my brother set up Nest cameras around the home. I guess there was a subscription to pay but we could get live stream, email/text messages if it got turned off and the pictures were crystal clear. It must have saved the videos as we could log in online to their website (24 hours a day) and watch at anytime. Phone,laptop ,desktop. Whatever your near at the time you choose to check. However i suppose youd need more than one to cover the whole house. Im not tech savvy but i know they worked well and served their purpose. Research Nest and see? Others are available and may well be better. The one thing that will help you is by telling the babysitters that the cameras record 24 hours a day and they are simply there for monitoring purposes and invite them to log in and watch for themselves so they know what your recording. That will put them at ease with the cameras being there. We did that with the carers so they had total freedom which gave them piece of mind. It also meant everything was above board and we werent spying on them and also in your case the kids will behave knowing you may be watching ! Its a win win !!
Good luck……Mark18 December 2019 at 6:12 pm #34181
Youll get there. We all know you will. xx18 December 2019 at 4:12 pm #34176
Sorry if it comes across wrong but that is so unreasonable. You sound like you are trying your best and thats what you should continue doing. Your doing your very,very best in unforgiving circumstances. Your right,2 reasonable people should be able to resolve this but one (new ) person sounds like he wouldnt know what reasonable was if it jumped out of a bush,shouted im reasonable and proceeded to bite him on the butt. Do your best and keep any record of his behaviour. Incidently you do have the right to know if hes there or not due to his threatening text. He lost the moral ground right there!Oh and dont lose faith.18 December 2019 at 11:55 am #34173
Youll make it honest you will. Xmas is especially hard . We about to have our toughest xmas ever. Ive no idea how we will get through but we will find a way. You will too. Ive found this website to be so helpful so please dont fail to come on. Even for just a moan. We all need one of those now and again. They are also very,very supportive. Take care18 December 2019 at 8:58 am #34170
Its perfectly normal to be scared of the future. Only you will know whats right for you and for your little one. I guess youve already tried talking to him and i assume hes not going to change his ways? Im scared of the future too for different reasons to your own but ive learnt one thing about the future and that is that i own it. You can own yours too. Best of luck