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    Louise121
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    Reckon we could organise a get together with our little ones?

    #32016 Report

    Louise121
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    Hello!

    I haven’t been active. How’s everyone doing? Thank you for replying.

    #24788 Report

    Louise121
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    Thanks for replying

    #24787 Report

    Louise121
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    I’ve found a nursery as think they’re more reliable as more staff to cover etc.

     

    She wants 6 weeks notice.

     

    Ivecresd rge contract and i think because she got the inadequate she I st meeting basic conditions of the contract such as safety

    #24299 Report

    Louise121
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    I’m really sorry for your experiences. I just wanted to respond as I understand the worry. I am in a similar situation in that my baby’s dad vanished when I was pregnant. Perhaps he’ll turn up, perhaps he won’t.

    I plan on telling him the truth at an age appropriate time. I try to spent time with a variety of families and read books showing diversity. I will also tell him that our family is special because Im so talented that I can do two jobs at once!

    My sons dad was adopted which I think had an impact on him so I will tell him that it’s not that daddy doesn’t love you it’s that he doesn’t know how.

    I hope I’m done way that helps.

    #16622 Report

    Louise121
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    My heart goes out to you. You’re in a really difficult situation. I can tell you’re a wonderful mum because you are recognising potential impact on your baby.

    I cant comment on your relationship. Only you can decide that. But there is lots of support these days for single mums. Are you in the U.K.?

    #15995 Report

    Louise121
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    Thanks for your reply.

    How earth do you work out that he hasn’t abandoned his son?! He turned up to a couple of scans, couldn’t cope and vanished!

    so you’ve never had to actually deal with the father or the fathers parents? How do you think you’d feel if they turned up?

     

    #15880 Report

    Louise121
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    So what’s your story? How old are your children? How comes the dad isn’t involved? Are the grand parents involved?

    #15879 Report

    Louise121
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    I actually think that the mother being judged and thought of as selfish s not always accurate. I’m certainly not. I’ve shown up everyday for my LO. You clearly feel very strongly about this but there are others who disagree. I’ve heard one story where the child receives presents from the grand parents, doesn’t see the Dad. She is 5 years old and tells people she meets that her dads dead. Nobody has told her to say that but it’s her way of coping with the confision and constant rejection.

     

    #15878 Report

    Louise121
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    That his father doesn’t want him?!

    If his dad messaged me to see him, it would be the answer to all of my problems. He wouldn’t be abandoned by his father then would he

    #15874 Report

    Louise121
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    My mum has mental health problems. She couldn’t cope with my baby crying and tried her best to have ya there. When his parents started coming round and I started questioning things she asked me to leave.

    I have every right to question what is best for my son. I have grown, born and looked after my son on my own. It will be me who is there for him when he repeatedly can’t hnderystsnd why his father wants nothing to do with him. It’s that part that breaks my heart.

    #15873 Report

    Louise121
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    Yes, I understand all of that.

     

    Youre still not not answering my question! What do I say to my son when every month he goes to his grand parents house to see them but not his dad. What do I tell him?

    #15872 Report

    Louise121
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    Ive just been through this and come out of the other side. It’s such a lonely time! Nobody understands how you feel- not even those who’ve had babies because they’ve firgitten how vulnerable you feel. Preparing for a baby alone can be daunting but also empowering. I have counselling which helped with my anger. Make sure you have someone you want with you at the delivery- you can look into doulas and get them on the NHS I think. I would also be aware of what you name your child if the Dad is in and out of his life. My son has my surname which I’m v glad about now.

    I now have a stunning, thriving 4 month old baby boy who I adore. My ex still hasn’t been in touch. Perhaps one day he will be. That’s another phase though!

    #15869 Report

    Louise121
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    Thryre over bearing because they keep going round to my mothers house to make arrangements behind my back. I feel very backed into a corner. It’s damaged mine and my mother’s relationship.

    Not exactly paternal grandparents- he was adopted so no blood line unfortunately.

    Thry seem nice people- just worried about the future.

    #15867 Report

    Louise121
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    Thank you for your reply.

    Mom aware it’s whats in the interest of my son, that’s why I’m asking for advice!

    It is however very difficult and a mother’s love is fierce… which is how it’s supposed to be. I naturally wants what’s best. It might not neccesserily be what’s easy it popular.

    My main concern is what I say to him when he asks where his dad is but he sees grand parents all the time. Any suggestions?

     

    What long term questions do you think will arise?

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