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    Kath
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    Thank you. I joined and it’s pending at the mo.

    Really looking forward to meeting other older single parents, I hope some live near me 🙂

    #43119 Report

    Kath
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    I have always had the view that the person who wants to end the relationship should be the one to move out of the home. It makes no sense to force the other person to leave, it’s just wrong. In your boots I would be staying put with my children if that’s what you want to do. Let her go and find a new home for herself. You could look at having the tenancy transfered to your name and keep your home. Why should you be the one to rearrange your life to suit someone else?

    #43117 Report

    Kath
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    Could you send me the link too please?

    #36296 Report

    Kath
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    I think it’s a cracking idea, I’d be in for it. I have an enhanced dbs and a diploma for children and young people’s workforce. Parents would feel safer leaving their children if all background checks were done I think. I have no idea about setting up nd running a website tho.

    #36240 Report

    Kath
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    It’s like loosing a limb when they are not with you isn’t it, that’s how I used to feel when I was without my son when he was younger. It’s so clear you love him so much, it shows thru in the words you use.

    I always found play groups hard work until I found one that wasn’t all in little groups with no way in to the inner circle (I’m not inner circle material) but honestly there will be a group somewhere that is welcoming to the novelty of a single dad (more and more dads go these groups than before)  that people are happy to chat with about daily life and stuff, you might need to do a tour of playgroups til you find one that suits you.

    If you are not happy for your child to be at grans why do you let him go? As the primary carer you have the right to make decisions about where he is and who he’s with. Are you letting him go to grans because you feel you should be doing so even if your not ok with it? Why is there nothing you can do about it?

    #36218 Report

    Kath
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    You can also access Ofsted reports on the places you are interested in for looking after your child when you get to the UK.

    Ofsted inspect all childcare places, including schools, on the quality of care that is given to children and publish the results. These results can be easily accessed on the internet. An Outstanding result from Ofsted is the best that can be given. Next best is a Good result, after that there is Requires Improvement and then comes Inadequate. So it’s always best to see what Ofsted say about the place you’re looking to choose for your child.

    #36217 Report

    Kath
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    Gosh you have had your world turned upside down in a few short years. The perfect happy life you had, the rug has been pulled from right under you but you know what, you will get beyond this.

    The only thing I can think of for your wife is to keep supporting her in seeing your child, the rest you have to let her make her own choices with what she is doing with her life if she won’t go for some serious help. You have done the best you can for her in reading up and researching. I don’t know enough about the medications she has been on so it’s best for me not to say anything in that area.

    Have you thought about a bit of child care during your working week so your little one can socialize with other children and it gives you that bit of help that you may need? Perhaps find a nursery close to your home where he can spend a couple of mornings or if you prefer to take him to a play group where you will meet others who you simply gel with?

     

    #36195 Report

    Kath
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    I agree with what Kathy has said, you do need to support your son as difficult as that may be. I always found it best to email my ex when there were issues when my son was younger.  When my own son was a similar age he told me his dads place was ‘rusty’ (which meant a dump) and he didn’t like been there so I had to do something about it for my son’s sake but I did it via email xx

    #36194 Report

    Kath
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    I question the wisedom of a married man coming on a single parents support site in the hope of getting some sympathy.

    I think you should be putting lots of effort into your marriage instead of complaining about being bored or your wife and perhaps even yourself might end up for real on here, broken, lonely and having to fight your ways thru a divorce that can take years to recover from.

    Stop thinking about yourself so much and think about others for a while.

    #36175 Report

    Kath
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    I think it’s best that you tell them, you won’t have any nasty surprises from them that way

    #36123 Report

    Kath
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    I don’t think it’s out of order to give this contact a miss. You little one sounds quite poorly. I know you said you would feel uncomfortable if he saw your little one in your house but I do think if there is no danger to you maybe it is something you could grin and bear this 1 time?

    #36088 Report

    Kath
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    Ask the school to fund the trip from pupil premium if the school get pp for her, that’s what I would do in your boots. Its there to be used for the benefit of the child.

    #36043 Report

    Kath
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    Oooh you sound so excited and so you should. There is no other way to do it but one step at a time, keep stepping forward xx

    #36042 Report

    Kath
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    So he is trying to control you thru money. I think you need to let him know this isn’t going to work. Give him your full support in contacting cms to complain about travelling 40 miles a month; I do think they will have much more serious things going on than listening to him whine on about 40 miles a month to see his children.

    If he stops seeing his children that is his own choice, it’s not your decision but his so do not feel like the bad person in this if that is what he does.

    #36039 Report

    Kath
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    Emma hang on in there, yours is on it’s way xx

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