[Kanger1]

Sorry to hear that, sometimes things just get on top of us especially this time of year.

As others have said don’t see possibly going on some medication as a failure, they are a great help to get you in a better place. I separated in January and instantly went to the docs for anxiety meds and it had massively helped me.

You are not on your own, always people to talk on here. Just fight through this low time  and keep going. Enjoy time with your daughter once you break for Christmas and try to not put too much pressure on yourself.

[Kanger1]

Agree with Kath. Nearly a year down the line but sitting and listening and lots of hugs and patience seem to help. It is a new world for them and they can’t express or fully understand their feelings sometimes.  Just keep going forward 🙂

[Kanger1]

I will have my daughter until lunchtime Christmas day and get her back boxing night. Will go to my parents christmas afternoon. Will be very strange whatever, feel like i am stepping back in time..glad me and my ex are separate but first christmas will be hard on my own.  Keeping busy will be key.  Hope you both have a lovely day whatever with your little ones🙂x

[Kanger1]

Happy Birthday for next week GirlFriday!! 🎂🎂

[Kanger1]

😆 my daughter loves Roblox too and watching YouTubers play it 🤷‍♀️

Nice idea planning out recipes, I need to do that as I love baking etc. A nice task you can do together.

When are you putting your tree up? Next weekend is our plan 🙂

[Kanger1]

I do update my ex although believe it or not we go to parents evening together (we split at the beginning of January) kids do like to see you are all on the same team. I message him about stuff that has happened at school as i have her 70% of the time. My ex is living the bachelor life as he couldn’t do the boring side of life and if i didn’t know him so well could misread his limited interest in his daughter when not with her but know that he just needs prompting is all.

[Kanger1]

Well done on entering the world of blogging! I used to be a travel blogger, loved it and met lots of people. I am considering starting again, some sort of lifestyle blog. If you can link your blog into your business in some way even better? Especially if you work in beauty, easy to develop content ideas and build an audience. If you are on social media link the posts in too. 🙂 i look forward to reading more.

[Kanger1]

Hi

Yes its so hard when you are used to having someone there, even when you have been living as housemates as I was! I think the loneliness comes and goes,  I try to organise lots of things to look forward to, even if its just meeting a friend for a coffee. This weekend I have struggled with it and I am nearly 11 months separated…keep moving forward and get excited about a lovely baby coming into your life, which will open up your world to new friendships 🙂

[Kanger1]

Hi

I am in Lancashire so not quite Manchester. If you do all organise a get together in Manchester or area I would be interested (i have a 9 yr old). Also recommend using the meet up app, I have found it really good for making new friends.

[Kanger1]

I know what you mean about mumsnet..whether your ex likes it or not homework is a thing and has to be completed whether she thinks its a good idea or not, its not easy navigating shared parenting 😕 she needs to find time. Do you attend parents evening together? You could casually bring it up the importance of it etc. During your session?  My daughters dad only has her once during the week and every other weekend and I do feel like he has the good parts of parenting perhaps thats what she feels (even if its not true) .

[Kanger1]

Hmmm the great homework battle. I have to say it does sound like she is down and taking it out on you. You sound like you are doing a great job. I have the battles with my ex, he gets to do the fun stuff and I am the boring one my daughter lets it all out to. I try to get dad to sit and do homework with her every other week so that its a shared experience which seems to work, could you offer that?  It keeps you both up to date with your sons abilities then too, homework can be a great bonding experience too. Its definitely not about your parenting her issue, keep doing the great job that you have been doing.

[Kanger1]

Hi

Sorry to hear that, be prepared for highs and lows but just keep moving forward. I am nearly 9months separated, we were together nearly 14yrs and have a 9 yr old who needs alot of reassurance 😕

Book in for a free solicitors advice session also see if you can get any counselling it really helped me even if it was only 7 sessions. This forum helps keep you sane as everyone is at different stages.

Take time to grieve the relationship and get out with friends as and when you can. I joined the meetup app to make new friends as my age group of friends are all in happy families with young kids so not around that often. Really recommend the app!

 

[Kanger1]

Hi

It is funny at first to suddenly have time to yourself when they are at their other parents place. 7 months down the line I find I am so busy with other stuff that I enjoy the time, does get lonely sometimes tho 🤷‍♀️

I am from near Blackpool.

[Kanger1]

Hi

No advice, but similar to you – no wanting to get back with my ex and all amicable but feel I am being left behind. Everyone else is dating or moving on or settled in their situations. I pop on online dating occasionally but find it dull and not for me (i am 7 mths separated so newer to it all i guess).

I only think about my ex in the terms of is he having a better social life than me but realise it will be a while before i am ready to meet someone new, its kind of good to spend time with me but at this time of year its hard not to suffer fear of missing out. We are probably not missing out on as much as we think?

Maybe look for a new hobby or project as a distraction? It might help take your mind off things… I am studying and going to get back into my running. Good luck

[Kanger1]

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