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13 June 2019 at 5:45 pm #26408
She has no order in place that says he resides with her, there’s no orders in place at all.
I see him every single weekend when I’m home from work so I have regular contact but I’d hope that if she passed away he’d be coming to live full time with me. I’d give up my job and find something back in my home town if I had to but I wouldn’t expect to have to fight anyone in court to the rights to my own son living with me, I would expect that as his dad I was naturally the one he would come to.4 June 2019 at 3:46 pm #25972
I get Boxing Day only, and not allowed to have more, just keep getting told NO4 June 2019 at 3:41 pm #25971
I’ve not even tried, I think with my 2 year old the weekends I have him I must spend every minute with him and not leave him with my parents and then the weekends I don’t have him I spend catching up on house stuff so don’t believe I have time to date. I too do feel lonely though especially when he’s not with me.4 June 2019 at 3:21 pm #25969
I’d like to follow this as the nights my child stays with me are conveniently just under the required amount to reduce the money and when I ask for more there’s always an excuse for it.4 June 2019 at 3:19 pm #25968
Sorry for the late reply to this, lots has been going off
@DesperateDad She said it’s because she thinks it would confuse him seeing us talking which personally I think is ridiculous, it would be better for him to see us getting along in a civil manner, she since neglected to invite me to his 2nd birthday meal for the same reason so I missed out on his “party” for his birthday this year.
@Anonymous It doesn’t cost me more than £10 to get there and back, I do pay maintenance, quite a substantial amount due to my salary which we have agreed through an informal agreement rather than going through the CMS. My son is 2, I don’t have contact with him during the week because of my job, I work away Monday to Friday so am only at home at weekends, I have him Friday evening to Sunday evening one week then the following week I have him Sunday for 5 hours while she is at work, I can’t have him any longer than that because she wants to spend time with him when she finishes work and I can’t pick him up any earlier because I’d have to be up at 5am in order to do that so I have him 10am-3pm. That arrangement worked fine for me dropping him off at her house because it’s simple to get to, 1 junction down the motorway takes me 10 minutes to get him home, means i have more time with him because I can set off later, to take him to her Aunt I would have to leave sooner to get him there on time which eats into our quality time together. Plus I believe it would be more harmful to him never seeing us being civil than if I took him home and handed him over to her.
@Kathymumofone I thought the same myself about her hiding something because I’ve had plenty of people telling me she is seeing someone new however she denies that and in the past she has also mentioned moving away elsewhere in the UK which is around a 3 hour drive from where we currently live so wondered if it may be a for sale sign, but I’ve been down her street recently and nothing is up. I feel like it’s just another way to try and get under my skin, every so often when I think things are going smoothly and things are settled she’ll come out of nowhere and try to throw a spanner in the works. She knows I suffer from anxiety and am doing very well at managing it nowadays but always knows how to trigger it and it’s always a weekend where my son is at my house, it’s never when I don’t have him. It’s like she purposely does it to put me into a bad mood when he’s with me meaning our time together is spoiled.
14 April 2019 at 6:20 pm #23524
- This reply was modified 7 months ago by Jordan Gingerbead.
Hi welshdad, thank you for your reply.
Unfortunately I live in South Yorkshire but work in North Wales during the week so as much as I’d like to have him midweek it’s just not a possibility which makes life harder and as he’s only 2 we haven’t yet got a school run to do.
I do make sure that when he’s here we do nothing but play, we go to the park anytime the weather permits or to the seaside if we can.
I just don’t have a lot of time to meet people, I live out of a hotel due to work so no friends or family around me.14 April 2019 at 3:54 pm #23514
I try to be as much as I can but some things she asks or demands is just unfair and I can’t agree to 🙁14 April 2019 at 3:32 pm #23512
It may be but he’s only 2, sorry I should have mentioned that.
She won’t allow me to call her phone to speak to him, she’s gone as far as banning me from dropping him off at her house.14 April 2019 at 11:04 am #23495
Hi, I’m from Barnsley, South Yorkshire and I know the issue you’ve talked about, because I only see my son every other weekend I want to spend every minute I have with him but I’m finding I’m not doing anything for myself, when he’s not here I sit at home wishing he was.