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    Iwanttobeme
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    I have been single a while now. And can honeslty say interent dating has been one of the best things i ever decided do to boost my confidence. I haven’t meet someone long term but have met a few grest guys and a few bad.

    The good has out weighed the bad. Ive learnt alot of things about myself and who i want going forward now.

     

     

    #16728 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    Its a “relief” job as i was made redundant in sept and its the only thing i could find that fitted in around my other job (where more hours wasnt possible at the time).

    I havent signed any contract though i do have one, i have asked to be moved stating the distance was becoming an issue and statong to the one that imployed me how the boss was (ive worked with a few so no that’s not how they should behave). I am looking for somethng else and due have a few interview lined up.

    They do have a payroll and have hponed them nut they couldnt answer my query unfortunately.

    In regards to my ex he stated hes help with “big” costs a month or so ago and he knows about me not being paid, its just annoyed me tjat hes not standing up to hekp like he said as he knows she likes donig it as much as i do

     

    #16545 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    When i told mine i choose the easier one to speak too which for me was my dad. I just popped round one day and told him my ex had left

    (been gone  for almost 2weeks by that time).

    I told him to brake it to my mum luckily this worked out quite well and ive been very fortunate that theyve stood by me every step of the way.

    And if they tell you you have to fix it there wrong, you should exploan wjy you dont want to and how he made you feel, beleove me youll feel alot better for it if you do.

    Afterall You shouldn’t let anyone take you for granted or treat you badly

     

    #16542 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    Im almost 7mnths down the line and my husband of 16yr left me a few weeks later he was with the girl i belived he was towards the end. And therefore have no doubts he cheated

    Its not been an easy 7mths but i does get better and theres definitely alot more good days then bad.

    Along the way ive learnt it wasnt my fault, things wasnt right for a longtime and most of all, ive learnt I’ll never let anyone take me for granted over again.

    Message anytime x

     

     

    #16317 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    My ex did simular i found removing stuff to somewhere else i.e a garage helped a grest deal i am 7myhs on and there’s still stuff here of his but as i dont have to see it it no longer bothers me. A time scale also help with the keys and msking sure he t[k the stuff out the garage so he didnt habe taht excuse to keep coming around

    Id have been married 16years next month. He also had an affair

    Message me anytime x

     

    #15772 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    hes never took them out ir offered to help in costs so we cpuld go away or even stroked them when hes visited. In fact he jngnored them. 

    He wants to walk them he never technically said he wanted them just to tkae them out but he never really did it when he was here i was sole custodiy really.

    Wheb he left we decided theyd stau here as he works full time we thought the best thing is that they stau here with me and the kids. Maybe im just bieng paranoid after the way he left.

    #15771 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    He didnt want them when i suggested the possiblity of getting rid though.

    He suggested i take him to the rspca but i manned up and made sure i did everything not to allow my family to be disrupted anymore :/

    #15708 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    Im currently considering two option ms keeping my surname which my children have.

    Or ms my maiden name which is easier to spell

    Don’t wont to be mrs since i wont b married and it saved explaining myself regardig my single mum  status.

     

     

     

    #15638 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    Your story sounds extremly simular to mine my husband walked out after 15years marriage. Hes now with a much younger girl (most people including me think he had an affiar)

    He left pretty much without warning made lied constantly and weve found out hes still in the cycle he was which is one of the many reaons i couldnt have him back. His contact with the xhildren has been hit and miss and went through a stsge of  only have them when he wanted

    Ive loved the past 6weeks with my girls we went on hoilday alone.  But have just stsrt a new job whcih serioulsy made me lose my mojo last week im am hoenst as like you said i felt stuck dping soe thung i didnt want and i didnt no how to move forward. Ive found writing down what ive achieved without my husvand here has helped and all tbe things id love to do now the stuff he never wanted to wholst he was here.

    I can pormise you it does get better yhe thiught if being alone bow doesnt terrify me as much as i e pected at the beginning id rahter do that then be treated that way now.

    Ive found talking to my friends, my family and beleive it or nkt his has set my mind full on mode. Ive jpined an amazing gym where i achieved  things i never wholst he was here

    Its going to be ok hunny message me if you like x

    #15423 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    I found joining a marien fitness camp local to me has been the turning point for me. 

    I am on a waiting list for conselling still waiting to hear. X

    #15401 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    Yeah i can see the trust side will take a very long time. And even thlught this guy seams ok i keep doubting ot. We will see thing progress there is really no rush. X

    #15371 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    I have been spending alot of time with friends this past week as finally have realised to love myself first as without that i dont think ANYTHING could have happened with anyone. Im gaining in confidence by the day and  bought clothes i wouldnt have condsidered towards the end, i feel free and even ny friends have said how good im looking now.

    I feel amazing and actually comfortable alone and i think that has to happen before you love again as ive realised i can take things as they come along m. I was even able to great his parents who seen the change in my ex too. (first time theyve visited since this happened). They didnt really talk about what had happened but they where seeing who i am now,how i am and i am ok it’s took alot of sole searching. His mum said how nice my house had become now 🤗

    I did eventually met the guy in a pulic place a have a grest time so we will see i think he was judt bring cherky woth the whole ill come over then as he was a true gent. Even walked me back to my car so we’ll see. But i do no no matter what i will b ok. And that all i neeeded

     

    #15244 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    didnt even realise it was even a thung till you stated.

    And since hes been very amibcable now ive said im arranging the divorce, it will shock him is all.

    BUT ill take it as im enttitled to it xxx  

    #15234 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    Im sure i will be fine too it was my parents reaction thst through me of as this is the only time theyve not gone with my ideas upto press.

    Thats why i thought maybe my idea was a little out there. Clearly not from what youvd all said

    100% going to do it when i have the funds xx

     

    #15225 Report

    Iwanttobeme
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    I didnt even realise it was a thing.  But i am also worried it will become an issue for him.

     

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