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    OK so I was brought out of our joint mortgage last September if you both jointly own the house then yes it is a 50/50 split unless any claws written in or mutual agreements so mine was he paid the deposit so I didn’t get that money and he remortged rather than sold the house but I came out with a sum and yes she wouldn’t get universal credit until below £16000 but you can’t forfeit the money either as it would be classed as fraudulent and she still wouldn’t get any universal credit I was told that as I was going to leave with nothing as I was in abusive relationship and just wanted out but I couldn’t get any financial help as had equity in the house.

    #105785

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    I think he is correct I’m sure I read that when my son wasn’t sure what he wanted too do snd I looked into it too.

    #104113

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    Yes it will if you are renting they can ignore it for 26 weeks under special circumstances take a look on line to see the criteria had you been getting another mortgage straight away the equity wouldn’t be taken into consideration.

     

    I’ve just been brought out of my house by my ex after fleeing Dv/Da and I didn’t come out with enough money for a deposit so I’m now renting and you can’t get support again until under £16,000 and have to provide proof of all monies.

    #103156

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    Didn’t do mediation because of DA/DV so didn’t have too.

    #102940

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    I know you will I just don’t want him to walk over you I been there I let my ex come in and play the xbox with my 2 sons when it happened made them drinks gave food that lasted a week and then I thought no this isn’t helping my feelings it’d harder to see him everyday so I stopped it and set days and times you got to give yourself space and seeing him everyday is just not giving yourself that I’m not having ago believe me. Take care of yourself xx

    #102935

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    Sorry to hear your going through this. Similar story for me married 11 years together 15 he left 2017 said he didn’t love me I’d already forgiven him for 1 affair to find out a week later that’s why he left because he was having another. Don’t let him have his cake and eat it if he’s decided he has left, you have got to be tough and set times for him to see the children as it really isn’t going to help you seeing him all the time please don’t let him use you which is sorry but sounds to me like he wants it all his way. I had counselling when my ex left also found myself very depressed and struggled I also went through the stages of thinking and wanting us to get back together bit then you go through the anger and hate that he has done this to you it is all part of the emotions of a relationship break up I’m afraid. I hope you are OK I’m a good listener if you want to talk x

    #102929

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    Yes that must be hard to sort can’t he speak with his employer and ask if there a way of getting more set shift pattern if he explains its to have his child?

    #102910

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    Hi when you said he works shifts has he always done this? As my ex when we split went from a mon-fri 8-4 job to a night shift job.

     

     

    #102755

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    There dad’s see the children yes but there is no communication unless there an absolute emergency please don’t thunk badly of me for that but there more that happened that I don’t feel appropriate to disclose for everyone to read.

    #102728

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    Can I ask why you want shared parental rights and are not just helping and supporting your daughter with your grand child please don’t take offence just never heard of this situation??

    #102727

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    hi

    I’m sorry for what you are going through right now. I’m not in the same situation as you but have been through some of your situation. I can’t believe your husband has done what he has to you and what he has said about his unborn baby he knows the consequences of having sex without protection and obviously did his part in that or sorry if I’m mistaken and it was planned and now he’s changed his mind.

    How do you feel about being a single mum or do you think in time you will forgive him?

     

    My story is different but I know how you feel right now. I was married and we had planned our second child after a difficult situation with our first I had post natal depression and swore I’d never have anymore children I was on anti depressants for 2 years and received counselling and support from my gp and health visitor when my first born was about 3 years old I woke up one day feeling on top of the world and said to my husband you know I said I’d never have anymore babies because of the depression how would you feel if I changed my mind he was happy we spoke with the Dr and they supported right through trying, the pregnancy the birth and up till our second son was about a year old and I didn’t get postnatal depression with him BUT our marriage started to have problems and I started doubting my husband and accused him of having an affair to find out that I wasn’t mad like he tried to make out and when our baby was 4 months old I caught him out we seperated temporarily but I forgave him I think looking back now because I was vulnerable and thought I couldn’t bring up 2 children on my own we got back together and 6 years later I found out he was having another affair this time I chucked him out and divorced him that same year. 2 years later I got into another relationship and now have another child my daughter with a large age gap but due to domestic abuse find myself on my own again and now bringing up 3 children. You can do it but it has to be your decision on what you want if that’s your husband your choice if that’s the support of your husband but not the marriage your choice.

     

    I hope you have lots of support and help through what your going through right now.

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    #101621

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    I’m on universal credit you do have to declare it but they don’t use it towards anything.

    #101377

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    TimTom what does that mean?

    #101369

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    I tried the council but because I have the equity from this house they say I have money but haven’t got it yet and landlords are not accepting me even offered to pay 6 months upfront and obviously they want people with more money as I always get told the landlord as gone with different applicants and I’m receiving support from sateda but they don’t have anything to do with housing the only option I have is to present as homeless and already been told no properties in my home town so will be away from family support and with the way my mental health is that isn’t going to help me right now

    #101279

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    Sorry was this question to me? If so no mine is due to being brought out of a joint mortgage. But I tries explaining to universal credit that I haven’t got anything except my bed and a tumble dryer but they basically said cancel claim and reapply once under 16,000 & to keep receipts for large expenses so I can prove where the money has gone

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