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    HappyMum41
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    Could I get the link too?

    #42354 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hi

    When I read your post it sounded so much like my situation I felt I had to comment(apart from I hadn’t just had a baby congratulations)

    Your husband sounds exactly the same as mine and we lived together for 4 months after he told me it was over and them 4 months were awful not in the sense of us living together but knowing he didn’t want me anymore and still doing family things and everyone thinking we were still together I couldn’t do it in the end and asked him to leave

    Fast Forward to a year and a half later and I’m still standing it’s been tough and still is sometimes but I’m happy and came to realise I wanted the family unit just not him and maybe in time you’ll see that too

    I’m here if you want to msg me but just wanted to let you know you can do it xx

    #39860 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hi

    I don’t want to sound negative but I’m going through this at the moment and he doesn’t have to pay the mortgage so I would be careful.

    He doesn’t live in the house anymore so your expected to pay the mortgage when you get divorced he can ask for his share of the house if he doesn’t before

    He should pay maintenance but I would be careful incase you rock the boat.Try talking to him first.

    Mesher orders are very hard to get now and very expensive.

    Lots of solicitors do a first appointment for a fixed fee you should get some advice

    Good Luck

    #39683 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hi

    I understand what your saying and I was unsure at first but it’s the right thing for me.My son will always know I’m his mum regardless of my surname and for me personally I have no desire to keep someone’s name I’m not married too.For me it would always tie you to them and I want to be me!

    So each to their own but I don’t need a surname to be someone’s mum

    #39626 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hey

    I totally understand mine has also come to a stop!Its very annoying and like you I feel like I’m stuck in limbo!

    I don’t think it helps either when you can’t see friends or family and have this going on.Its hard putting a brave front on trying to get on with everyday things when your stuck!

    #39411 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Haha Cilla!

    Well behind comment number 2 is Lindsey and i’m from Northumberland

    Hi Dorothy!

    My exciting day has involved lots of cleaning 🤣😂

    #39410 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Thanks for the reply!

    Your Relationship sounded exactly like mine.There wasn’t a big reason we just didn’t get on.We get on reasonabley well now and I think it just threw me!

    We haven’t been a part of each other’s life for over a year so I’ve plenty things to fill my time(not at the minute obviously)so I’m content

    I think it just reminded me of the future your not going to have together anymore and it’s just sad I guess cause at one time they were your future

    Its just strange xx

    #39388 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hi!

    I’m just in the 40’s and I have a son of 8.I’m still working and just trying to have fun with my son when I’m not.

    I also like ice cream 😁

    #39039 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Thank you so much for the advice

    That all makes sense and that’s what it seemed to be saying online

    I’m going to wait till the divorce is over so it doesn’t cause any problems x

    #39038 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hey

    It doesn’t matter what anyone wants to except it’s about you and what you want.

    You need to make your own mind up and only you can do this don’t feel pressured to do anything

    I had my son on my own a decision I made and I didn’t look back.Yes it was hard I had no help but he’s 23 now and he’s amazing

    Anyway I just wanted you to know do what you want and what’s best for you.It will last a lifetime whatever you decided

    Good Luck x

    #38917 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hi

    For what it’s worth I’m in sort of the same situation.My soon to be ex husband wants to sell and I don’t.We went to mediation which helps to sort out what you would have should you sell and helps you talk through your options.

    In my view it doesn’t matter who did what(for the house)it doesn’t work like that.

    Try to talk about what you want to do and lots of solicitors offer a fixed fee meeting to start with

    I will say it is true that no one really wins apart from solicitors cause I’ve spent a fortune so far and it’s still ongoing.

    If she is still living there and you are not then she should pay the mortgage this is what I’m having to do and that’s what my solicitor said even with your name on she has to be able to pay the mortgage or she couldn’t keep the house anyway.

    This is just my experience so far and not sure if it will help or make sense to you but I wish you luck.

    #38823 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hi

    If your on a low wage you would be able to get help with college courses and sometimes there is help with childcare costs.There are also lots of courses online you can get help with so you should definitely look into it.

    I don’t have a degree or a particularly good job but I’m going to college around this to make a better future for myself.It is hard when you don’t have help but you can do it

    Hope this helps

    #32734 Report

    HappyMum41
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    Hi

    I don’t know either but I’m that way also and would be interested x

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