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17 October 2023 at 12:41 pm #115666
FurBag36Participant@Gertrude Of course it’s going to be hostile.
And yes, standard response about sperm! You’re missing the point entirely. Thank you for commenting on a situation you clearly haven’t been in.
17 October 2023 at 11:33 am #115664
FurBag36Participant@Montana2019 You have absolutely hit the nail on the head!
The entire system does encourage and facilitate his continued abuse. And they are ignoring it as you say!
I’m really not ok but I am absolutely powerless to stop it.
He has plenty of money to throw at this and it’s just awful. No one is listening to me.
And @Gertrude Yes, it is 2023 and YES I am absolutely saying I am sick of hearing about Dad’s rights! And it absolutely matters that I grew her and gave birth to her. It matters that I am the one who comforts her when she falls. I am the one who praises her when she’s done well. I am the one who is present every single day.
Yes, he pays because I went to the CSA because he previously refused to pay! And even now, pays under or not at all. He was not present and thinks he can now pop up!
I am sorry but no, he should not have rights in that situation!!
And when there has been domestic abuse towards her and myself, no…absolutely NOT, should he have parental rights! It is disgusting you think otherwise….in 2023!!!!!!
5 July 2023 at 8:16 am #108848
FurBag36ParticipantBig celebrations. I hope all went well.
3 July 2023 at 9:54 am #108812
FurBag36Participant@dannii009
I hope I am in a happy space like you one day. And very well done for getting through.
3 July 2023 at 9:53 am #108811
FurBag36ParticipantI hope you’re right.
I was working overtime as I need every Penny possible. Hope you did too.
2 July 2023 at 6:32 pm #108807
FurBag36ParticipantI really feel for you but please know that you are certainly NOT trapped!!
If you want to instigate a divorce then all the forms are on the .Gov website. They take you through step by step.
One aspect of the divorce is the financial settlement and how much you will both get.
How long have you been married?
Check your mortgage deeds on whether you are Tenants in Common or not and how much the split is upon sale of the house. If you don’t know where your deeds are, contact your bank/building society.
The .Gov website also has pages on what benefits you may be entitled to going forward if you don’t have many hours.
It seems daunting and isolating and lonely but I promise, you will get through it if you decide to leave ok.
2 July 2023 at 6:23 pm #108806
FurBag36Participant@Remymartin I really do feel for you. It’s only time which heals. I hate that phrase so much but it is all we have.
I send you all my thoughts. You will both come out of this. It’s just a very big hill. Xx
2 July 2023 at 6:20 pm #108805
FurBag36ParticipantIs it hard to stay positive when you’re bogged down in a bubble but it is important to try and stay positive.
1 July 2023 at 8:23 pm #108799
FurBag36ParticipantIt is very sad indeed to hear how people are struggling. I am in the same boat. I have so much going on that I can not even be bothered to type it out.
I’m exhausted of feeling exhausted! It’s horrible.
I snapped at my daughter earlier and my gosh, I went into my room sat in my bed and cried my heart out. (Without her hearing).
For a moment I thought, “god f*** my s****y life”!!
But things go up as they come down. I’m literally living from day to day at the moment. Well, not really living. Existing.
But if anyone is feeling truly down, please do always reach out as you have done. And I hope things get better.
1 July 2023 at 8:12 pm #108797
FurBag36ParticipantMost welcome mate.
1 July 2023 at 8:11 pm #108796
FurBag36ParticipantOh sweetie. You most definitely will find love again!!! It can feel like you will not. However, we only really ever attract someone healthy and who is good for us when we are not looking.
It is a very tough decision and you will probably go back and forth. It is hard to leave. It will be difficult but I promise you, you WILL come out the other side standing tall. Xx
1 July 2023 at 8:59 am #108792
FurBag36ParticipantMorning,
That is a predicament. I had a friend who was in exactly the same position a fair few years ago.
I was in the same position. I met someone who appeared to be Mr. Wonderful and my gosh, his abuse was horrendous.
I did leave him at first during the pregnancy but then made the very silly decision to go back. It then got worse.
I wish I hadn’t gone back. We are split now. Only you can make that decision mate but let me tell you now, although it’ll be hard and scary and everything in between; you WILL be able to get through it if you do decide to leave.
Do you have a good support network around you?
With regards to continuing with the pregnancy, do you have any kind of gut feeling about what to do?
1 July 2023 at 8:54 am #108791
FurBag36ParticipantMorning Steve,
In the eyes of the law, children are classed as children until 18. However, I believe both are now old enough if they don’t want to go. They can’t be forced.
Should the Courts get involved, I’d imagine they would take the considerations of the children.
Not sure if that helps mate.
27 June 2023 at 11:45 pm #108485
FurBag36ParticipantThank you Gingerbread.
27 June 2023 at 11:43 pm #108484
FurBag36ParticipantThank you.
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