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14 September 2019 at 8:00 pm #30356
I can completely empathise with you on this. I’m the same. Since I became separated I have been far snappier and less fun. Therefore, I have guilt about it all the time. I’ve tried counselling but that hasn’t made any difference. I’m desperately hoping things will become easier and that life with start to feel happier again.
Have you got family and friends to support you through this? X14 September 2019 at 6:07 pm #30353
This sucks 😞 I’m sorry you lost the fight. It seems to me that it’s going to be a lot of going back and forth for your daughter.
As for spending four nights apart, initially this filled me with dread to but you get used to it slowly. It’s just really lonely at times.
I really hope it all works out for you 😞13 September 2019 at 11:47 pm #30344
It doesn’t sound like the boyfriend or your husband are particularly good for you or your children. It seems to me that you moving out for five months was a great choice and I think your husband is cruel for not allowing you more access to your children.
My sensible head tells me you should focus on being alone and becoming the best you can be for your kids. However, I need to heed this advice myself too and am failing. I can fully appreciate how difficult it is to move on from relationships and how easy it is to become trapped in a relationship that is unhealthy for you. So, instead, I will suggest that you just keep your head held high and look after yourself. Take every day as it comes and try not to dwell on the past x13 September 2019 at 10:59 pm #30343
This sounds really difficult. I hate to say it, but it sounds to me like she has well and truly moved on. If she is thinking of applying to CMS for maintenance, chances are she will go ahead and it whether you like it or not, so my advice would be to move out ASAP and set yourself up a new home. A fresh start. She wasn’t the one for you… painful as it is to accept that. Time for you to move on now and build a solid, comfortable home and life for you and your kids.
I haven’t found it gets easier yet… but I live in hope 🤞🏻
Hope things work out for you.13 September 2019 at 10:50 pm #30342
It’s been over a month since I last posted on here. I still hate being alone. I’m finding the divorce battles exhausting and am desperate for it all to be over, but unfortunately we are so very far from that being able to happen. I’ve been keeping myself busy on the days without my daughter by walking here there and everywhere.
Funniky enough, since I last posted, I have realised I find the evenings when I have my daughter the hardest. When she is awake it’s glorious and happy but then when she goes to bed, the evenings seem endless. I obviously can’t go out while she is asleep so I end up just existing here, alone and miserable. I can’t motivate myself to paint or play the piano or do anything really. I feel totally lonely but I don’t wanna be around family or friends… I know that sounds crazy. I don’t even understand it myself. I keep waiting for things to get easier, and in some ways they have, but in other ways, they’ve just got worse.
I am hating it all so much 😞 Please someone tell me they’ve been here before and that it gets better???29 June 2019 at 9:08 pm #27055
I know what you mean about enjoying a bit of time away from the kids… I love my time with my girl, if I had it my way I would have her the whole time, but I realise that wouldn’t be good for her or her dad! But every now and then it is nice to be able to do the things that are difficult to do when you have a three year old with you.
I do have hobbies – I enjoy painting and playing the piano, but I have to be in the right kind of mood. They’re still quite lonely hobbies! I think part of the issue is that I have my girl on wed, thurs, fri and sat nights so it’s difficult to get out and meet new friends because most social events happen on the days when I have my daughter! Not many people are up for a night out on a Sunday 🤦🏼♀️😂