so this is me….with my partner 9 years, married for less than a year, 2 beautiful children. Around Xmas the relationship ended (tough couple of months) and I saw messages which I wasn’t comfy with. I thought we wud sort stuff out but my wife isn’t willing
so 4 wks down the line we r still in the same house. She has put a deposit down on a rented property on the same street.
But is pushing for money. Legal advice has indicated I shudnt give it her without an agreement but I am aware the agreement we have come to is good one. I av suggested drawing it up and having it signed by a solicitor but she has been told a mediator can do that and it be cheaper. The situation I am in is she hasn’t thought of everything but we are content with what we have agreed. What’s the best route to take?
the worst bit for me is I am struggling to accept the situation. She is denying an affair with this woman and I just can’t get my head round how after a few months of marriage u just walk away.
my head is a mess and although I can’t let go I do want this over with now as it feels like emotional turmoil and I am not coping very well with it
any advice greatfully received (just to avoid confusion it is a same sex marriage!)
Mediators are not qualified solicitors and they will be 80% cheaper than a qualified solicitor. You need to see a solicitor with a view of sending a legal letter. Do not waste your money on a mediator.
I am very sorry to hear about your problems. I have been through a separation where children were involved and it was all very paintfull, so I sympathise with you.
As for the the agreement between you, Im afraid even if it is drawn up and signed by a solicitior, it is not legally binding. The only actual document which ensures they have no claim on anything in the future is a financial agreement which is part of the divorce process.
I hope you can get your head in a place where you can make some decisions. Baby steps is the way through it and making small moves in the right direction.
Thank u for your replies. We are going to have a separation agreement drawn up by the solicitor. I know that it won’t be legally binding but I feel it will give some peace of mind until we get to point of divorce. At which point I expect I will be seeking a clean break order but right now I can’t even cope with the separation so the thought of divorce isn’t one I can deal with well