Hi I’m a separated soon to be a divorced dad. I’m a shift worker 6-2 / 2-10 currently. I see him every other weekend on a Monday before and after relaxing shift and Wednesday before and after shift every sunday I take him to football for 2 hours. It works well with shifts although I only have the over nights on the every other weekend.
in September my son will start school. It’s a critical time and will be for a long time so I’d like to get it right.
im curious to know your working hours fellow parents how it works for you and overnights etc.
im up for new suggestions and will discuss with my boss to see if I can change or flex my hours. As long as I do 40 hours per week and can occasionally work till late now and then I don’t see an issue.
look forward to your help and ideas.
i love the every weekend and taking him to football on a Sunday. Keen to hear ideas x
thanks a guy who is tearing his hair out at the thought of not seeing his son as much.
I work 8.30 to 5,Mon-Fri, drop my son (age 11) off at the bus, 7.50 each morning, and collect him at 5.20.
Home by 5.30pm then I cook while he does homework until about 6.45, he then plays Nintendo while I tidy up, get things ready for school. Tv 8-9, bedtime routine, 9-9.30. Sleep then up at 6.30.
Rinse & repeat.
It’s relentless. Even though I “have” my son all week, Relax together time is only at weekends.
My ex doesn’t do overnights at all because he couldn’t cope. So he sees his son on a Sunday or in the holidays..
I suppose what I’m saying is it is hard work. Reception not so much so but everything else has to give way to achieving school hours. Be prepared to flex. Your child will get tired so counting who gets what hours is less important than making it work – somehow.