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    Sunshine 81
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    Hi im new to this im just going through a seperation. I have a 12 yr old son who is very independent i work part time but wont be home until a hour after school ends is he ok to be left alone for a hour?

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    Kath
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    Only you know how responsible your son is to be left til you get home. Would he know what to do in an emergency?

    I’m sure most of us have left our children on their own for an hour at that age, I have. I don’t see him having the house to himself til you get home a massive problem, just be aware that Chilren’s Service do say that children under the age of 16 should not be left alone at any time. It doesn’t say that you must not leave them alone. But again only you know if he is mature enough, if you are confident in him to be letting himself in without a whole bunch of friends to boot …

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    Sunshine 81
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    Thank you for the reply its so hard i domt want to give up my job as we need the money. I have no friends/family so its just me and my son

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    SOLOMUMMY
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    Legally it is when you believe they have the emotional and mental capacity to manage being in a home on their own.

    Would he know what to do if there was a fire or someone knocked at the door? Is he responsible enough to not do something “daft” as children often do?

    Perhaps a middle ground would be that he walked to your work? Or a library? Or went to a friend’s home or an afterschool club? If you don’t feel being alone is appropriate. Or to his dad’s?

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    Sunshine 81
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    Yes he has a friend that lives near he walks from school with his friends

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    Kath
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    I’m in the same boat as you, it’s just my 14 year old son and myself. I have no friends or family to help either so I do understand the dilemma you’re in. I had to weigh it all up too before I accepted a job where my son would be on his own for a while. He has been fine, nothing untowards has ever happened in the short time he has been on his own (he was 12 at the time too)  xx

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    Sunshine 81
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    Im glad its worked out for you its nice to know its not just me in this situation xx

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    greyareas
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    I have a 12yr old son too and after school he goes to the local library. Luckily it open every evening until 5pm so I collect him from there. He gets to do his homework and the librarians have got to know him do I benefit from free childcare. In the past few weeks he has started to come home and been on his own for a couple of hours. Now the clocks have gone back and it’s darker, he wants to revert back to the library. That works for me.  Check out if there’s a library local to school and check opening hours.

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