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    DillonHS
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    Question: my wife wants 3rd parties present at  contacts between me and my 6 month daughter, with herNote my daughter lives with her. (I dont have a criminal record, and she walked away from her marriage and is seeking divorce)

    She has said the 2 3rd parties will have a watching brief from another table. As she is “scared of me” also the 3rd parties could be there for aslong as she is comfortable

    Should i agree? could these individuals be used in court to provide a character reference of me in a negative fashion? Im not sure how it works

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    DillonHS
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    <span style=”color: #500050; font-family: Roboto, ‘Helvetica Neue’, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;”>Theres no incident of physical abuse or violence. Theres only been the arguments of the need to live together and not end the marriage for no real reason. But ive given up on that front. I do get the feeling she wants to pretty much run off into the distance with the child and have me not involved. Can a 3rd party instigate a matter and then be used in court?</span>
    <div dir=”auto” style=”font-family: Roboto, ‘Helvetica Neue’, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; color: #500050; font-size: 12.8px;”></div>
    <div dir=”auto” style=”font-family: Roboto, ‘Helvetica Neue’, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; color: #500050; font-size: 12.8px;”>Her brother has been to my house and instigated an assault on me, whilst i was holding my child. So this is the reason im wary of 3rd parties. Not fully sure what to do here</div>

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    DillonHS
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    Thank you Anonymous for your help, i did report it to the police. No further action will be taken. (incident was that my brother in law pushed me whilst i was holding my child and then essentially tried to headbutt me and challenge me) The incident happened when  my wife came to collect her belongings and i was happy to let her collect them. There was no need for the assault. So its almost like ive been stitched up in my own home. As i was being peaceful and allowing her to collect her belongings

    Really it should be me requesting 3rd parties. Also the distance we are apart, makes it difficult for me to find a 3rd party to cart every other weekend.

    In truth i would be very uncomfortable with 3rd parties present for a indefinite amount of visits, whilst im playing with my child. (in fear of being pushed again, whilst im holding a child) Also the 3rd parties are professional retired teachers

    As a comprise i have suggested assisted contact centre. With a qualified social care worker. But she has declined that as she wants to be in the room at all times.

    So were at an impasse.

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