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    Jshep1981
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    Hi everyone , I’m separated from my wife 2 years ago. To ensure me to be able to separate I took all debts (credit cards and loans)with me and it costs me £400 a month. My ex wife has decided to go back to work 3 days a week and had asked me to give her £60 towards child minder fees. ( a month) I’m skint and can’t affird that but also my point is I took all debts away excluding mortgage why should I pay for child minder fees to benefit her when clearly she’s going to be better off from going back to work ?

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    I think you’re going to need a solicitor. You have a duty to pay towards your children. Your debt payments do not go directly to your children, therefore are not yet recognised. You’re going to need some formality – maybe you shouldn’t be paying all the debts if they’re shared. A court would care about the children, not the parents. Maybe you need someone to formalise who pays what.

    All the best.

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    Jshep1981
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    I pay £96 a week child maintenance , I can’t see any legal requirements to pay more? I spend every weekend with my children

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    Empty
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    Well then let her take it further. You’re doing your bit. More than, it could be argued. You could suggest mediation to discuss this matter, but maybe she needs to do her bit to make this happen. Sounds like she won’t. Asking isn’t getting.

    All the best.

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    Greenfingers
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    Surely if she’s returning to work then potentially she’ll be entitled to either childcare tax credits (low income) and/or childcare vouchers in a salary sacrifice system (so long as her employer offers this), it sounds like you’re being more than fair paying what you already do

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    Jshep1981
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    I do like to listen to other sides of arguments and I guarantee there will have been situations in the past where I’ve beem wrong but on this occasion I feel like I’m being squeezed .

    Problem is it will result in a massive ding dong , my ex also seems to think that the child maintenance should remain the same even if my incom chnages .

    i.e I get more my kids get more , if unfortunately I get less then they do and we all tighten our belts accordingly ?

    I’d appreciate views on  This also 👍

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    Jshep1981
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    My income can vary I.e if I work a Saturday I get abit more , I don’t get paid for bank holidays etc .

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