Hi everyone , I’m separated from my wife 2 years ago. To ensure me to be able to separate I took all debts (credit cards and loans)with me and it costs me £400 a month. My ex wife has decided to go back to work 3 days a week and had asked me to give her £60 towards child minder fees. ( a month) I’m skint and can’t affird that but also my point is I took all debts away excluding mortgage why should I pay for child minder fees to benefit her when clearly she’s going to be better off from going back to work ?
I think you’re going to need a solicitor. You have a duty to pay towards your children. Your debt payments do not go directly to your children, therefore are not yet recognised. You’re going to need some formality – maybe you shouldn’t be paying all the debts if they’re shared. A court would care about the children, not the parents. Maybe you need someone to formalise who pays what.
Well then let her take it further. You’re doing your bit. More than, it could be argued. You could suggest mediation to discuss this matter, but maybe she needs to do her bit to make this happen. Sounds like she won’t. Asking isn’t getting.
Surely if she’s returning to work then potentially she’ll be entitled to either childcare tax credits (low income) and/or childcare vouchers in a salary sacrifice system (so long as her employer offers this), it sounds like you’re being more than fair paying what you already do