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    I have been trying to leave my partner for well over a year now but every time I have the opportunity to say it’s over, I don’t seem to be able say the words to him and instead put up with a life of misery.   Why?

    We have two young children almost 4 and 2.  So am thinking it is parent guilt?  How do I overcome this?  Where do I find the strength to pull the band  aid off and ask him to leave.

    Any advice or guidance would be greatly appreciated.



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    Will pm you.

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    I have just read your post and am in a similar position…….am struggling to find the courage and strength to move on. Am maybe scared of the unknown and how different life will be…….but my little boy is growing up and I can’t expect him to keep putting up with the roller coaster of a life that his dad’s condition keeps subjecting him to. If you ever just want someone to talk to, just send me a message.

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    Hi im currently in a very similar situation to you! Its so difficult isnt it. Ive got a 9 month old daughter and i honestly dont know why i dont feel strong enough to leave. He puts me down all the time and makes me feel so low. Ive been putting up with him in the hope of him changing for our daughter..i dont think he will ever change. Ive been trying to find places to rent for me and my daughter but am being turned away as i only work part time due to childcare.

    Im so sorry to hear you are going through this aswell. You arent alone. Please PM me anytimex

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    Hi I am currently in the similar situation with my marriage. I have been with him for the past 15 years and have a 7 year old son. I knew that he was not going to change but I still put up with him. I still have feelings inspite of his behaviour swearing at me all the time and having extra marital affairs and he keeps blaming me for his behaviour. Now I am standing in the cross roads unable to decide what I need to do and what path to take. I have fear of unknown, I have been getting anxiety and panic attacks and started attending counselling sessions. It’s effecting me mentally and physically.

    you are not alone dear . They say  talking helps .Please don’t feel you are alone in this journey. Anytime please do pm me x

    A big hats off to all the ladies who are in the similar situation and yet being strong xx

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    Hi everyone. It’s tricky – everyone’s situation is different so you have to do what’s right for you. I stuck by my wife after years of emotional abuse and unfaithfulness, but things ended anyway, so I guess I just prolonged the pain by clinging on.

    People can always change their small behaviours so perhaps even threatening to leave your partners to show them how serious you are will help? But if they’re being unfaithful then it’s so hard to get over that and forgive them long-term.

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