What do you say to your child?

[Marr]

I’ve been a single parent to my 2year old daughter for a year now with no support from her mother. She barely sees her and doesn’t really have any contact with me.

Today my daughter started asking about mummy as she hasn’t seen her for some time. I didn’t know what to say so I told her we’ll call. So we did and I got accused of using my daughter to speak to her and she hung up.

I won’t put my daughter in that situation again but when she’s asks about mummy again I have no idea what to say to her. Can anyone offer any advice?

[xxx]

Be honest.  You don’t need to speak for your ex. They will eventually form their own opinion of their mother.

Perhaps something like

Mummy says she can’t visit at the moment. I don’t kow why. You can ask her when you see her. Don’t worry about it. Maybe she will be available soon. And then jump into another positive subject or activity for distraction.

 

I find the less attention you draw to it the better. They do not realise the importance of what they are asking. If they asked when are we seeing grandad again you would not think twice about saying oh I’m not sure he lives far away but we will arrange something when we can. And then move on in your conversation. ….

[Marr]

Thank you, it’s really simple isn’t it once you put it like that, I think I just got caught up and confused by it all. I think the phone call and abuse got to me. I need to brush all that off, thank you I appreciate the sound advice.

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