Hi, I’m just wondering what other people do when they have a child free weekend. I’ve spent all day at home in my pj’s as there doesn’t seem much point in getting dressed. I’ve no motivation when they aren’t here. My friends are all with their families and I don’t want to keep intruding. I make a list of things to do but it’s easier just to stay at home. I don’t want to but it just feels that without the kids – what’s the point?
How do I give myself a “kick up the backside” and a purpose?
Hi Lainey, this takes time to adjust. If I know the kids won’t be here at the weekend then I’ll leave certain jobs for that time. Such as cleaning/laundry, supermarket shopping etc. I’ll walk the dog, visit mum, get some bulk cooking done for the freezer (for the evenings when I know we’re rushing before clubs). If I just sat around then I’d only be wondering what the kids are up to. I look forward to them coming home so I might bake some nice buns/biscuits to help distract the kids after the transfer as it can’t be easy for them either, leaving their other parent. Try focus on making it nice for them to come home to as opposed to sitting wondering what they’re up to as your torturing yourself, it’s just altering perspective 😃 and obviously keep yourself busy!
I used to be the same sit wondering are they ok and because he walked out for someone else id think has he taken them there to meet her is he telling them all about her it was awful to start with I resented them going but now I think I don’t have a choice he’s there dad regardless of what I think of him so keep myself busy and usually go out on the Saturday night with a friend also seperated and then Sunday have a lay in iron there school uniform and just don’t rush around and time soon goes.