Hi I’m new here. My life is complicated to say the least and I think I’ve made a lot of mistakes but my biggest fear is that they will hurt my son. How much do I tell him and when?
He is 2 yrs old and has no contact whatsoever with his father. Unfortunately however, I work with him and have done for many years. when I fell pregnant which I had been told was impossible, I was ecstatic but his father was furious and disappeared. He called me all the names under the sun and said my son wasn’t his. I have never been unfaithful, and he is his father. But anyway, his father has now accepted that my son is his but will have nothing to do with him and from a selfish point of view I am glad of that as I couldn’t bear to share him. I don’t want any CM or anything from him but I don’t want to lie to my son about who his father is or why he’s not around but I also don’t ever want him ever to feel the pain of being unwanted. He understands already that our life is different from his cousin’s (who he is extremely close with). His cousin has a mummy and daddy but he only has a mummy. He often calls my sister’s husband daddy and I have to correct him and try and make him laugh that he just doesn’t have a daddy but my heart breaks every time. I chose to be a single mum, my son did not choose to only have one parent. What do I tell him?