I had my son after a very short relationship, found out he was in another relationship etc. I’ve been raising my son alone the past 4 years. My son has suddenly started asking about his ‘dad’. I’ve tried explaining that me and his dad are not together and he lives far so we can’t see him (ex had never seen son and can’t be asked to as too much of a bother for him). Son keeps asking when his dad will pick him up from school and that just breaks my heart. What do I say to my son? I don’t want him growing up feeling unwanted. He’s my heartbeat.
Maybe explain that all families are different and special and he is very lucky as has a mummy that loves him very very much. I’m sure there must be an age appropriate book you could read to him that would help him realise it’s a very normal thing.
He is just processing what he is seeing as I guess other dad’s are in the playground, good he is being open about things.
Hi, I can imagine how hard on the heartstrings it must be.
Singleparents.org.uk has a recommended book list to help children with this (I’m sorry gingerbread team for talking about another site. Your wonderful but maybe it’s something you could think about for the gingerbread site?)
Honesty is the best policy at an age appropriate level. That is how I’ve handled it. Similar situation as you. You don’t want him to resent you as he gets older as you haven’t been honest. But still saying daddy loves you very much.