My husband walked out on us and our boys before Xmas and we were all devastated. In Feb, he contacted pneumonia and sepsis and nearly died. He spent 2 weeks in hospital and he wanted me with him and us to try again so I agreed to let him come home. He has now admitted that since he has got better, his negative feelings towards me have returned. He has also admitted cheating on me and said that he wasn’t even sorry as he wasn’t happy and it happened. He has agreed to try and work on our marriage but his actions say he doesn’t. I think that he is still in contact with the other woman and I fear that he may wasn’t to be with her.
The problem is my eldest son is about to sit his GCSEs and I think my husband is just stringing me along until the exams are over and then he will walk. I spoke to my son because he could tell that things weren’t right in the house and explained what was going on. I asked him if he would prefer dad to leave now or after the exams and he said after. I fear that he thinks the longer he is in the house, the more chance we have got of sorting it out. However, I think his mind is made up. What do I do? I can’t risk disrupting my sons future so do I play along until the exams are over. However, 6 weeks is a long time to pretend when he is making zero effort to ‘try’, doesn’t come near me, and is generally not open to us.
I would play it out but make sure you have everything in place for when he goes. Sort out joint accounts etc so he doesn’t wipe them clean with no comeback. Investigate what maintenance he should make etc.
Get ready to apply for benefits if applicable etc.
And tbh I wouldn’t expect an effort just okay along in front of your son. Don’t let him string you along emotionally. He was scared when he was ill and selfishly used you.