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    AbbyMaria
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    We have a little boy and a house together. I work full time.

    Where do I start in regards to planning next steps?

    Thanks very much

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    Missykins
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    I’d check your financial entitlements so you feel secure and decide where your going to live.  It’s overwhelming but do the basics first the rest will come together xxx

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    Vikkimg
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    You can do this and be strong. Same for me 2 years ago and someone told me time is a healer – sounds silly but it really is. It’s good if you can be amicable when it. You are welcome to pm me if you want to share more. I was in a situation where I had to leave the house and live with my mun for a year until the house sold. I am in a much better position nowadays and so much happier x

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    Vikkimg
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    You can do this and be strong. Same for me 2 years ago and someone told me time is a healer – sounds silly but it really is. It’s good if you can be amicable when it comes to childcare.  You are welcome to pm me if you want to share more. I was in a situation where I had to leave the house and live with my mum for a year until the house sold. I am in a much better position nowadays and so much happier x

    #54241 Report

    Hi AbbyMaria

    I’m Michelle one of the Moderators here in the forum.  I’ll add a link below to the Gingerbread info pages where there’s a section on the steps to take when separating:

    Separating – Gingerbread

     

    I hope that helps a bit

    Kind regards

    Michelle

     

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    Icandothis
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    Hi AbbyMaria

    Lots to think about but take one step at a time. I am in a similar position to you. I have a 6 year old and am pregnant, and the emotional and mental abuse has become too much…and I can see it is now affecting my son. I made the toughest decision to separate.

    I contacted Gingerbread helpline and they walked me through my options, financially and wellbeing support. Definitely speak with them if you haven’t already.

    You may be entitled to Universal Credit… try using the ‘EntitledTo’ calculator to check what financial support you may be entitled to.

    There is help out there so please don’t feel alone.

    I’m still going through the early stages and so is quite raw, but happy to connect if you want someone to talk to.

    @GingerbreadMichelle thank you for sharing that link.

     

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    Elaine1966
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    Hi I’m new to this site, my husband and I have decided to separate after 10 years. It’s quite nasty at the moment and I am feeling totally out of my depth, he is a drinker who is becoming worse with his moods. I know it is the best thing for me but it scares the life out of me. Please help

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