My husband walked out on me and 2 children aged 1 and 2 4 weeks ago. He blew up after an arguement, said he didn’t feel same anymore and went to his parents! We argued for 3 weeks, ive now given him space as he didn’t make any attempt to move on what he said. The reasons he’s gives me for leaving are very trival, I’m so hurt as be together 10 years. I still want him back
Not so different to me except she took the kids to her parents and I haven’t had any contact since. Getting on for four months now. No idea how or when it’s going to end but I get the idea this had been planned for months beforehand for evidence that I’ve since uncovered.
I’m not sure I can see it’s getting easier with time. Not yet. All the best though and let’s all be here for one another.
My advice to you would be to try and continue with your life without him and try to keep yourself busy, is there any groups you can join where you can bring your children along like baby groups. There really isn’t any point running after him as he will just make it go on longer and you will end up more hurt by his actions. If he says he doesn’t feel the same anymore, then give him space and even give yourself space to be you and to try to enjoy your life with your children, focus on them and yourself. When I broke up with my daughter’s father I went to university took on a degree I enjoyed, I also took up a drama class and started doing things I loved to do before before he was in my life.
Trust me on this, we can spend all our time and energy chasing after people and get nowhere or we can say no this is not how I want my life to be like and focus on the things that bring you joy and love and not the things that pull you down. Your husband may come around and apologise for his actions but don’t wait around for him. He is a grown man, he needs to work out what is important and if he can’t then that is his loss… don’t get down on yourself lift your head high and say “I can do this with or without him” take one day at a time