I am new to this to apologies if I rabble on! I will try and keep this short and sweet.
My ex-wife and I had an agreement in place (through the divorce) on time spent with our 8 year old son. We separated just over a year ago.
We have 50/50 access between us but nothing has ever really been set in stone with regards to holidays and splitting them. Last Xmas she asked to take him away over the Christmas holidays to Brazil for 2.5 weeks to visit her family. I reluctantly accepted as I thought he would enjoy this but made it clear this would not happen over Xmas again especially for such a long period. I recently contacted her to bring up the subject of Xmas this year and suggested that we stick to our usual days of having him over the festive period but for Xmas day we split it between us with one parent having Christmas eve until 1 on Xmas day and then the other parent having this the following year. My son has requested to see us both Xmas day and I did make this comment to her but now she is telling me she will and has the right to take him abroad every other year over the Xmas period and that our son doesn’t get a say in it. She said that the law states she can take him abroad to visit his family?? I am unsure if this is true or not. Her new fiance does not celebrate Christmas due to religious beliefs which I completely accept, however, our Son shouldn’t be penalized because of this. He would be distraught if he doesn’t see his mum this year or see me next year but I don’t know how to make this work with her. She has put our son into private school this year which now means he has A LOT more holidays but she refuses to take him any other time apart from Xmas (She has been away twice this year, Barcelona for a week and Miami for a week) with her new partner OVER the children holiday period and didn’t request her son to go once!?!
Any advise on what other people suggest to do over the Xmas period would be greatly appreciated . I don’t want to go down the court route of getting a child arrangement order as I am worried that because she now has a lot of financial backing the courts will favor her as I wont be able to afford any one to represent me.