Hi everyone, I’m incredibly new to this. I’ve decided to separate from my husband because things haven’t been right for years. Over a decade. We have two children aged 3 and 4. And I am feeling quite helpless tonight. As it’s my ‘choice’ (not what I’d call a choice but hey ho) I’m being labelled the perpetrator or the baddy. My own family are taking the side of my husband. His family are taking his side. And he is telling everyone he can possibly tell that he is entirely innocent and wants nothing more than for us to work. We’ve tried. We’ve done counselling countless times. Its just not going to work. And I’m scared. I’m scared for my future. For that of my children’s. How can I get through this first few weeks or months?? Any tips gratefully received. Oh. And we are still living together.
If you’ve decided to separate then you need to put that into motion. Do you own the house? Clearly you can’t live in the same place together. It doesn’t sound like he’s done anything wrong for the children, so you’ll probably get shared duties. Obviously, if you feel you can live in the same house together then fine, but at some point you’ll both want other partners.