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    Jamiejay85
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    Hello, this week I have been having a tough time with my daughter who is 3. She’s been rude, nasty and demanding which is out of character. This evening she said that her mummy told her not to love daddy anymore. What can I do in this situation? Thanks for any help.

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    Mazz123
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    Hi you should talk to her mum about what your daughter said it isn’t healthy for a child to be told these things surely her mum wants what is best for your daughter you should just reassure your daughter that you love her very much and always will hope you can sort this out with her mum x

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    Jamiejay85
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    Thank you. I know I should speak to her mum but I can only imagine she would relish those words our daughter spoke which would not be nice.

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    JuneB
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    This is concerning and divisive and hurtful if that is what is happening.  You should definitely bring this up with her mum and say what has happened and ask her to explain her point of view.  She may admit it or have a different version but whatever happens you should both be able to agree that your daughter should never be <b>put</b> in this position and you as her parents have responsibility to make sure this doesn’t happen ( however you are feeling inside). I can relate to this and  it hurts like hell  but be strong and as Mazz says just stick to a firm line of loving her and trying to sort this out with her mum.  I spoke to my friend on this today as she is a child psychologist and she said there is a leaflet that specifically outlines what you should do to ensure the best positive mental health of your child during separation and this was one of the top things that we need to protect children from experiencing X

     

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    Jamiejay85
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    Thank you for your advice. I say to my daughter that I love her every day and I always will. This week she has been a different person towards me. I’m taking it that she is confused and frustrated as she’s only 3 and doesn’t know how to really express her feelings. I’ll try to bring it up with her mum and hope that she doesn’t lie. Thanks again ✌️

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    JuneB
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    That’s tough if you think she would enjoy that but I’d want to call out that behaviour if it exists personally but I guess you could have a general conversation about what’s best for your daughter in how you are with each other. I am constantly trying to be a good parent and think that I have done everything I can to be a good role model..unfortunately we can’t control others, and I am constantly trying to think on the positive side that if we do our best hopefully our child will see that and see us as the person we are and love and respect us for that! I have also heard that family mediators and courts don’t see this as a good attribute in a parent if they are trying to alienate the child from the other parent…. Take care and good luck..

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    Jamiejay85
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    Thank you for your advice and help. It really is appreciated

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