I got through a devastating divorce and relocation with a now 6 yr old child. I am now resettled and ready to build up my business again.
I have been planning my way back to self employment, and was claiming child tax credits. I became eligible to claim UC and thought I may head for Enterprise Allowance to give me a bit of support after a few years away.
What is concerning me is that I feel like I’m being intimidated into accepting to look for full time work hours, and any single parent that knows that is virtually impossible. It has really upset me. I feel like I’ve made a terrible mistake, as there’s no way back to tax credits. However, if I’m planning on working soon, child tax to working tax would probably have been recognised as a ‘change of circumstances’ ? So I would have been moved to UC anyway.
What is upsetting me is that I feel I’m not being given a choice how long I want to be around to care for my daughter. This feels morally and profoundly wrong. I did not ask to be in my position, and it’s bringing back all the anxiety and dreadful feelings of worthlessness.
I went into this with my eyes shut and no advice. I feel so stupid.
After a phone conversation with my job coach he negotiated 25 hours, but this still seems too much to begin with.
Sorry that you are going through a difficult time with this. Hopefully some of the parents on here will be able to give you some of their experiences to help you. In the meantime, have you considered contacting our helpline? Our advisers are experienced with knowledge around benefits and can give good direction for information and support. There number is 0808 802 0925.