I’ve been a single mum to my two boys for almost 3 weeks now. I was devastated when i had to ask the love of my life to leave our family home, especially since i have put up with him for the past 7 years, thinking no way in hell it wouldn’t get better!! Turned out i was so wrong. 4 years ago after the birth of our first child he started to verbally abuse me, calling me names, telling me what a bad mother i was purely because i wasn’t breastfeeding and i was feeding the baby on a routine and not baby lead as he would have wanted me to. 2 years later we had another baby, by this time he was also physically abusive towards me and always looking to start an argument in front of our child. But something happened 2 years ago. He said ‘ you have to understand that i don’t love you and i’m with you only for the kids’ ..’ i wish you would die so i can leave happy without you ‘. And i did. I have stopped loving him almost instantly. We have lived together ever since under the same roof but not as husband and wife ( only so i can provide some stability for the kids). I have learned to ignore the bullying for a while but 3 weeks ago i just couldn’t do it anymore. So i asked him to pack what was essential and leave our home.
I’m happier than I have ever been in my life. Because i loved him so much i also learned to forgive him. The minute i did that my life changed. I started to smile more, stop feeling guilty and i enjoy my time with my kids. I’m not angry anymore. Life is shit sometimes and feelings change, people get bitter but don’t ever forget who you really are. Don’t let someone else define you just because they find it easier to blame the other half for their mistakes. Keep strong and better days will come for sure, that i can promise you. Last week i was thinking what to tell the kids, no father for them anymore, but with support from some of you here, i have managed to tell them the truth i simple words so they can understand. Thank you so much to all of those who took some time to reply to my message and hope you’ll find the strength to carry on for the sake of your kids if not for yourselves.