I have been a lone parent since my little one was a month old, he’s now 13 months.
I am good at keeping busy during the day with baby groups and general day to day activities but the nights and weekends are the loneliest. All my friends are in a couple, they don’t understand how this feels.
I try to make plans with people in the evening, but find that 9 out of 10 times I am cancelled on. I have to be the understanding friend and agree to rearrange, say things like ‘Don’t worry about it’ and ‘I understand’. But they don’t realise how much I was looking forward to the adult conversation, to a giggle over grown up things rather than blowing raspberries and pulling funny faces with the baby.
At the weekends I feel like I am intruding on family time for my friends and their own other halves so I rarely suggest a meet up with anyone and therefore find these days the loneliest.
Genuinely don’t know what to change the current situation; dating is not an option for me.
It’s difficult isn’t it. I found it really lonely, it was part of the reason I went back to work.
If you can’t work, I think the best way is to concentrate on other mums in the same situation. There are plenty of us. I spent time at the local arts centre at the weekend, and got involved in the village sports club fund raising.
It gets easier when your lo goes to nursery and you meet more mums. What are you doing at Xmas? Could you host a girls night at yours?
Working saved my sanity. This is the only time of the year I buy myself nice clothes and get dolled up.and go to all the office parties . I have bought some new tops and earrings and the nanny will look after my little girl. The good thing is that the company has paid for everything.
My boss asked me to sort the decs put for the office. I normally would say no because of work load but it actually cheered me up getting the stuff out .