tips/ advice on Dating
29 April 2021 at 4:19 pm #53543
Right so what it sounds like is we need some sort of GingerBread social group! I looked at online dating as a way to make friends that I don’t already know or work with, particularly single parents and despite a LOT of no answers and feeling like I was wasting my time, I made a few new friends including on here so as far as I am concerned, it can work, as long as you remain skeptical and optimistic at the same time!
@LittleDF I totally agree – it does feel very odd, saddening and downright lonely not having your other half around the house. I lost mine to cancer rather than divorce and I found myself staring out the kitchen window at times just thinking “Oh f*** how do I cope?”. The self-induced stress does lessen with time and confidence will grow at the same time, boosted by positive experiences. A friend who’s also a teacher (I used to be) is taking their kids off camping for a week in August and am tempted to go too as it’s nice to spend some time with friends and share the burden/fun of having the kids on holiday. I don’t really have people to ‘hand them over for the weekend to’ so where I go, the boys mostly go with me and I make that quite plain.
It’s perhaps different that I consider myself to be very risk aware and fairly able to look after myself but not everyone is that confident. That said, we all have doubts and the collective confidence instilled by a lovely, positive chat like this makes me think, if we all chat so well, why don’t we just organise a group day or camping trip somewhere affordable, relatively easy to access and the kids can play whilst the grown ups break out the camp fire and share stories of how much better off people are for having a bit more freedom in their lives and genuinely nice people to talk to?29 April 2021 at 4:21 pm #53544
@Kirikat – it kinda depends on your local group. Cheltenham is very proactive and a few ladies organise group hikes every Saturday for a few miles, different place each week. They are trying to organise a camping trip for the end of May bank holiday too. It’s not beyond us to get our heads together here and come up with a few options that people could vote for and then organise a low cost/effort weekend away or day out somewhere. More than happy to do some legwork organising.29 April 2021 at 5:50 pm #53547
Hi everyone, new here but have found this thread very interesting. As a single dad I’ve tried online dating but it has been very hit and miss.29 April 2021 at 6:16 pm #53548
some great advice, I need a new wardrobe and learn how to take photos!
Thanks for all the comments and feedback I found this useful. I guess you just have to take a leap at some point and try new things as you never know.
Not sure I am ready….I found myself having a look at online sites but they just seem very strange!
Its a shame there are no groups near me joys of living in the sticks!
But thank you all29 April 2021 at 7:53 pm #53551
OK decision made, a few of us are going to suggest some ideas for activity days or collective camping or whatever glamping/hotelling breaks and see who is interested, has suggestions/ideas or just wants to tag along. @Jaekae and I will set the ball rolling and everyone else join in or tell us if it’s a mad/crap idea!!29 April 2021 at 8:35 pm #53554
My little gal and I are in! We have done Glastonbury before, we are ready!29 April 2021 at 8:46 pm #53555
Awesome! So given you’re coming from London towwwwwwn way, how far is too far? Am keen it doesn’t turn into a south western locals only affair29 April 2021 at 9:27 pm #53556
I’m flexible but, 9h round trip seems a bit too much for a day excursion, let alone with a toddler.
Keep us all updated, I can definitely plan around with some time.29 April 2021 at 9:46 pm #53557
Loving all these posts i actulky decided to read for curiosity as i bored!
I have 3 kids n one grandson , my dogs are my company.
I have no wish to date been single 5 years, but meeting up for coffee or drunken nights in or out with other parents would be ace! Tho happy for walks n water fights to 😁😁 …
All my friends are couples, n my ex has our son 2 hours every 2 weeks, so i do get bored.29 April 2021 at 10:01 pm #53558
Our location may always cause problems oh the joys of north south! But comments and interactions are fun, problem with this is it not realtime
Always wondered if messaging group would work better, closed so it’s a little more controlled
Did look at chat rooms but OMG there not what I was thinking of!
I was more thinking of a “virtual pub” with good chat and laughter for when your board and lonely
No idea what app to use or how to setup just like the idea29 April 2021 at 10:29 pm #53559
I would love to join if there’s anything happening in the North East. Do we have anyone on this 1thread from the North East?29 April 2021 at 10:40 pm #53560
I’m north east way, Scarbados! 😂29 April 2021 at 11:34 pm #53562
I’m in love the idea of camping/glamping/ yurt/hotels. A short break with kids be fantastic. Or a London meet up. Thanks @lalaland and @Jonathanandtwoboys.30 April 2021 at 12:06 am #53563
With that in mind I have fired off an enquiry to see what the availability is like near Stonehenge as it appears fairly central for a number of people just to test the water. Most glamping sites seems very small and expensive so this is a combined camping/glamping/touring site that might suit all budgets and camping experience levels!
Ps if people post preferences/(cost) expectations that will help us narrow down options. Good thing about this is it could be for just one night or two at a push without being crazy expensive or a full day’s drive away.
Thoughts? I’m happy to sort campfires and bbq etc. Odd fact… I learnt to cook over an open wood fire in the desert!30 April 2021 at 5:40 am #53566
Im in Norfolk, Norwich not sure if anyone local ish this way. Sure your all further away..