Thinking about quitting work to care for my anxious 11 year old
5 October 2018 at 12:50 pm #16547
Well here goes, I currently work 16 hours a week over 3 days for a local government who I have worked for for over 23 years. I have an 11 year old daughter who has started secondary school this year, she has always struggled with anxiety but this change seems to have brought things to a head and she is really suffering badly with anxiety attacks/depression. After speaking to my line manager this week she suggested that maybe I should consider taking a year or so off work so I can be there for my daughter through this time. I must admit this had never even crossed my mind as an option until now, but now it has been suggested I think this may be the way for me to go forward to help myself (I also suffer with depression and panic attacks – although luckily now seem to be under control) and my beautiful little girl.
I have previously (February) got to a stage 3 absence with my work due to ongoing migraines, luckily I got given a second chance but I am currently at the stage where I have no annual leave/parental leave/sick leave available if I need to take time off with my daughter – if this happened (and obviously I would put her needs first) I could be facing getting the sack.
My question is, if I quit my job to care for my daughter full time would I be entitled to any benefits whilst I was out of work? I currently receive Working Tax Credits, Child Tax Credits, Family Allowance and some Housing Benefits. I have read that you sometimes have to wait up to 26 weeks to receive benefits which is not an option for me as there is only me and my daughter, we have no other support, financial or otherwise.
Thanks for reading and hope someone can offer me some advice x5 October 2018 at 1:02 pm #16548
5 October 2018 at 1:51 pm #16549
- Hi there. Although I cannot give you any advice about the benefits. I’m on UC and it’s a nightmare but as someone who has struggled with anxiety and panic attacks some years ago I know what that’s like. I’ve considered giving up my part time work, I have two small children and not sure what difference it would make. If it was me in your situation I think I would be seriously considering it. I’ve looked into a career break (also local authority) but have not pursued it.
I would suggest that you take time off work. I work part time and have a child in reception. .I too have to attend lots of hospital appointments but swop my days so that I keep to 21 hours. I get 5 days carer leave but only took 1 Day last year as I worked on the day I was supposed to be off.
<span style=”font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5;”>Your Little girl will get better but it’s really hard to find work so before you give notice maybe take a career break . I work for a large company and they have been really accommodating and j changed my hours so I could take her to nursery and leave at 3.30pm when my daughter was at private nursery . I love going to work , meeting people and I enjoy the challenge at work and more importantly I love my daughter and being able to afford holidays, having a car and treating my daughter. I would not be able to do all this if I didn’t work!</span>6 October 2018 at 4:10 pm #16590
I can’t help but think you would end up feeling worse. I guess you would be put into universal credits and still be made to look for work unless you were an official carer for your daughter (not sure if that’s just for disabilities). I would look carefully at universal credits and see if it would work for you. I think I’d be tempted to stay as I were if I were you and look into getting some therapy for your daughter.6 October 2018 at 5:46 pm #16591
I am currently seeking therapy for my daughter, which should happen before Christmas6 October 2018 at 9:04 pm #16594
When you are at work you meet people socialise and you forget about what’s going on at home . Once you give up your job you will feel isolated and even more depressed . Ask your employer if you can work term time but please do not give up your job.