Their dad won't stick to a regular schedule

[Kelseycookie]

Hi everyone, I have 2 kids under 3,  me and their Dad broke up a few months ago, he is in a new relationship that I suspect overlapped with our relationship. He has already gone behind my back and introduced the kids to his new partner when they had been together for around a month. He works on a schedule in which he is in work for 2 days and has 4 days off. We have currently been following a schedule where he has them overnight for one night on his first day off work (so technically every 4 days). He contacted me the other day and suggested that this schedule is no longer working for him and he wants to be able to plan around his own social life as well as when his new partners kids are with their dad. His end goal is that he wants to have the kids at the same time that she has hers, and so when they are away, he gets alone time with her. I am happy with what is in place already, I know that I have them for 4 days and he has them for two and it’s easy to plan my life around that. He’s not willing to budge at all on what he wants and I sort of feel like his new partners kids schedule isn’t my problem 🤷‍♀️ anyone got any advice? Sorry it’s long winded

[Kathymumofone]

His partner’s children’s schedule is not your problem but on the other hand you have a lot of years shared parenting to survive so it is better to try to find a compromise that works for you both.

You could agree to flex but get something in return. Have you thought about what you will do for birthdays or Xmas. Is this a good opportunity to negotiate what you want as well?

[GingerbreadJustine]

Hi Kelseycookie

Thanks for making this post.  You may benefit from getting some support from out single parent helpline.  They will be able to help you explore your options around contact.  They will be busy as today they are short staffed, but calls will be free.

Hope this helps, Justine

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