We find ourselves single parents following different n varied circumstances. However we can’t change the past, but are faced with choices to either dwell in that past that we can’t change or let that past not define us and live as fulfillingly as possible.
I extend my hand of friendship / relationship to anyone who’s willing to offer it. Our social n emotional wellbeing is paramount to enable us be better mums n dads to our bundles of joy (sometimes of pain).
I want to agree but I admit I’m still struggling with hurt and anger about the past; I am still living the consequences of what my ex did (left while I was pregnant). I want to forgive and forget but I find I get triggered every time I find his behaviour unreasonable. I’ve even bought a book “Loving our children more than we hate each other”… I hope it helps as I don’t want my son to grow up between toxic, warring parents. How do you manage to focus on the present and positive?
You made me smile with your post. Very wise words too. I have to agree that it is important to build a new future and build a strong emotional support network. I would gladly accept your offer of friendship. It can be pretty a lonely job. My pains in the bum…. I mean gorgeous girls are with their Dad for the rest of the summer holidays and suddenly I feel like the only person in the world without somewhere to be (I am a teacher). Evenings are the worst. On the up side my house is very clean and tidy… Lol.
I can only imagine how painful your situation is. It really is an emotional roller-coaster. It can be very difficult to stay positive but it sounds like you are doing an amazing job. I think if we seek support in places like this then we have already taken a huge step in the right direction. Keep your chin up. Always here for a chat.
Thanks and same to you. Sometimes I’m drowning, sometimes I’m surfing. I’ve been studying the nature of time lately and f it helps anyone have their zen moment then the past present and future have already “happened” so learn to accept the present because it was always going to happen and the future has already happened we just don’t know in advance what it’s going to be. Helps me to cope sometimes knowing if I just keep trying to do the right thing that’s all I have control over at this moment. “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, wisdom to know the difference”. And all that.