THE MEDIATOR SAYS SHARED CUSTODY WILL NOT BE POSSIBLE, IS THAT TRUE???

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    Me and my wife got divorced 3 years ago. Since then we have been taking care of our daughter.  Recently my ex-partner decided to go to the court and I found out that she wants full custody and wants me to have my daughter only on alternative weekends. I am not happy with that obviously.After the first hearing we started mediation (my ex-partner had a mediator in mind already, so we used it). During the first session the mediator told me that: IT IS VERY UNLIKLY THAT THE JUDGE WOULD ALOUD MY DAUGHTER SPENDING HALF OF THE TIME IN EACH HOUSE. I was shocked. Is that true? He said the best thing for a child is to have one place only to call it home, and if my daughter has, for example, one week in each house (which is what I thought would be fair) it would be confusing for the her and I would be good for her development. The mediator suggested that is more likely that my daughter would go to live with the mother and I would only have a small portion of time.  I have been doing more childcare of my ex-partner since my daughter was 1 year old (she is 7 now). We have a very very close relationship. My daughter has a little brother at my house that she absolutely adores. I am a very dedicated father and on my days she has breakfast at my place, I take her to school myself and collect her myself and I cook diner for her instead of using a childminder (the mum uses a breakfast club, childminder for collections from school and she collects my daughter just after diner).  What I am trying to say is, how is possible that the justice would prefer my daughter going to a childminder if the father can do that job and she would be mega happy with me, with her little brother (and my partner, that my daughter loves)?  At the same time, I do want my ex-partner to have 50% of custody (even though she does want to have it full)  Please, I want some words of help. I can’t believe that the justice works like that?

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