Hello, I am a single parent with a boisterous little 5 year old boy who is the love of my life. I split from my partner just after he was born. I will not deny it has been tough. No child maintenance forthcoming from my ex and no visits.
When he initially ran off with my friend I was obviously heartbroken. But the love for my boy kept me going. As my boy got older he started seeing the other children at school and started asking ‘why have I got no brother or sister mummy?’.
Without having a partner I initially looked into using the London sperm bank. But even though I work 16 hours a week, I decided the amount they were charging was well out of my reach.
Then about a year or so ago I saw a documentary on a TV channel about 4 sperm donors who offered their sperm for free.
So I decided to take this route in anticipation of having another baby and a sibling for my son.
I joined a selection of groups (there are lots). Immediately men started messaging me. Some of the messages and were quite unpleasant (including some explicit photo graphs).
A few of the men messaging seemed okay. I only wanted artificial insemination (syringe and a cup). And a couple of messaged me that they were AI donors.
I agreed to arrange donations with one gentleman. But his messages quickly become possessive and slightly threatening. He demanded to know if I was using other donors, and if I was vaping because a picture on my Facebook profile had me with a vape in about 2015. So he had obviously been through my photos. He then started demanding that I took pictures of myself on the scales without socks on which I did on one occasion (I thought this was normal)
I then got a separate message off a helpful lady who invited me into a ‘sperm donor reference group’. I then saw my potential sperm donor at the top … ‘ uptonnorth sperm donor 200 children ‘ (I will not use his real name which was in a Sun newspaper article). He had told me he had helped with only 6 donor children. I obviously decided not to use him because of his dishonesty. But he was a bit weird anyway. I think he liked pictures of feet.
Before I left the group I noticed similar feedback about peadophilia , sexual assaults and threatening behaviour.
I think I had a lucky escape.
I do think it’s time the government looked into Facebook group like these. They seem like one big meeting place for liars and pervy old men.
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