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i don’t really have any tangible advice but my 13 dd struggled with self harm although she managed to stay in school.
How we got through it is truly a bit of a blur but I do know that I managed to create a real sense of ‘us’ not ‘her’. We dealt with the feeling and emotions together. I gave her the opportunity daily to tell me where she was emotionally, looked forward at potential bumps in the road for the next day. She didn’t like me referring to her harming specifically so we used the analogy of a bucket & how full / overflowing was it and possible reasons for that. I guess I taught her how to shed the burden through talking. She had an amazing councillor (@ school) and famous my support got us through I constantly reminded her of how proud I was – she thought I was disappointed in her for harming herself and not finding a better way to deal with her stress. Everything we did (several books for me and for her helped) was about raising her self esteem and giving her really specific strategies for stressful situations. Again I found these from charities and online. Like I say not really helpful ideas but I wanted you to know you are not alone – take every bit of help offered – and she / you will get through this xxxx hugs