I’ve struggled to find any support for mothers in court. I’ve given my child’s father everything he’s asked for but continues to take me to court. If I say wait until x is older he refuses and takes me to court. My child refuses to see him and I’ve worked tirelessly to support their relationship including going to activities, his house etc with my child. He’s now taking me to court saying I’ve not been supportive enough and accusing me of alienation. My solicitor is telling me to accept everything as I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t. I don’t feel listened to or supported. I’ve bent over backwards and my own solicitor is saying unless I do as he asks; force my child to see him, the court will question my parenting and custody will become an issue! I’m asking anyone who’s going through or has gone through something similar for help and advice!
I have similar situation. My ex husband has dragged me through courts for 2 and a half years. My son is only 3. This process started when he was 4months old.
Social services removed my ex husband from our marital home as he was abusive however he has taken me to court time and time again and he gets everything he asks for despite non molestation orders occupation orders.
The worst is I have paid over 15,000 on solicitors and court hearings and no one still listens or wants to hear the truth. Meanwhile he continues to get everything.
I would try stay out of a court and start documenting and recording footage of u trying to help incase he does take you to court that you have a case built up that you have tried
I have documented everything and it’s made no difference. No one wants to hear it, including the CAFCASS Officer assigned to my case.
I’ve been in and out of court too since my child was born. The last time was when she was 4 years old (she’s now 8) and the judge said they’d never seen such a thick file on a 4 year old. They told him to stop bringing these issues to court but it hasn’t stopped him.
He was emotionally abusive during my pregnancy; that’s not of interest to the courts. I’ve had messages from women he’s been cheating with (he’s engaged) saying he would let her play in the streets whilst he was inside drinking; that’s not of interest to the courts. He smacked her, I told the Health visitor. They told me to stop contact. He took me to court. HV then refused to admit what they advised so it was ignored.
I feel so powerless as he gets everything he wants whilst my daughters wishes are ignored because CAFCASS say she’s too young.
He’s also avoided paying CM but that has no relevance either apparently.
Solicitor says even if he was a murderer or paedophile the courts would still order contact (albeit letterbox contact). It seems just because he wants it, he gets it.