Struggling without a support bubble
10 January 2021 at 3:31 pm #47965
Hi, I’m a single parent to a 16 & 19 year old, both still in full time non advanced education. I’m really struggling with the fact that I’m not allowed a support bubble as my son is 19 but he is no support & being typical teenagers they stay in their own rooms so much. Feeling really isolated with lockdown. I just feel I’m penalised for having a 19 year old. It doesn’t mean I’m less in need of support during lockdown just because he is not under 18. Anyone else here in a similar situation?10 January 2021 at 3:40 pm #47966
You can form a support bubble . A single person can form a support bubble with your household. Also you can meet up with 1 person outdoors for daily exercise so you arent all on your own.
Theres lots of people in your situation . every single person , and dads who see their kids where parents are separated.
Hopefully this helps and you can meet up with someone10 January 2021 at 3:43 pm #47967
Thank you for your reply. 😊 I thought that because i have one child over 18 that I could not form a social bubble or is it because i have one child under 18 as well that i can have a support bubble?10 January 2021 at 3:48 pm #47969
I can’t form a bubble with a single person as I don’t know any single people unfortunately10 January 2021 at 4:39 pm #47977
you can form support bubble with friend/family? or do video calls with random ppl.10 January 2021 at 4:51 pm #47979
Single people in this case most likely means a single human at one time,probably not single due to lack of marital or relationship material..But with BoJo on the job nothing’s ever as it seems,so who knows.10 January 2021 at 4:56 pm #47984
Thank you for your responses so far. I have family nearby & they’re not much help anyway as they’ve never been single parents, have the “perfect supportive” marriages if you see what i mean. My 19 year old son may be classed as adult by age but a typical teenager with lots of strops etc.10 January 2021 at 5:00 pm #47986
are your kids into gaming? maybe try get involved with them in one of their hobbies, interests. they will probably not be interested in going to the park with you. or watching a movie with them?14 January 2021 at 1:31 am #48124
I have no bubble either but my kids are really small that is why. I have no one available to bubble with me. I would have plenty friends who could meet up with me separately under the rules to meet up with one person not in your household. But because I have the kids who I can’t leave at home I can’t meet anyone. You are not allowed to meet with the 6 year old present. It’s ridiculous I can’t leave them home alone!!! So I don’t see anyone.
However if yours are 16 19 and you leave them home alone then you can meet people outdoors for a walk etc just only meet one person at a time. They don’t need to be single just meet them on their own. It’s not the support bubble rule it’s the permission to meet with one person at a time not in your household. So that make two individuals meeting. You have to go alone.
Maybe that is an option? X14 January 2021 at 10:21 am #48132
I feel you. I have a 16 year old and 15 year old twins who only just started at a new school in a new area in November. I don’t know anyone locally who has kids their age, or locally yet (we moved at the end of September) to form a support bubble with. It is tough as they don’t want to go for a walk or get out the house at all! Getting them up for online schooling by 9am is harder than getting them up for school! Hopefully we will get out of lockdown soon, or at the very least the kids will be able to get back to school.