Struggling with small support network
2 January 2019 at 11:06 pm #19177
I’m a single mum to 3 children juggling work and childcare. The children’s paternal family have zero contact with us. I am struggling hugely to make new friends due to struggling to have any time away from the children. Any suggestions on places to meet new friendly faces where I can take the children?3 January 2019 at 7:31 am #19181
Are your children old enough to do sports at the weekend? Or maybe cubs in the evening? I’m in the same situation as you and I know it’s hard. My children attend a lovely school where I have met some friends and I’m lucky to have them x I hope you find somewhere you can find friends xxxx3 January 2019 at 11:23 am #19191
Im in the same situation, its so hard when you have no support and no time away from your children to make friends. Mine are three year old twins and when Ive tried attending groups I have my hands so full keeping my two safe and from not causing utter chaos, I cant get more than a hi to anyone else !3 January 2019 at 12:40 pm #19196
I am a Dad of 2 boys. One lives with me full time, the other half the time. What with work, housework, shopping, the dog etc etc, it is almost impossible to get out as you say. My family live a few hours away, the ex’s family do a bit at school drop off / collection time (which is great), but most evenings and weekends are fully booked. The only solution I have found, is people in the same situation where you can take the children with you. Families usually end up being with other families and I guess thats how it used to be with me too.
There doesnt seem to be any groups around either, not even from this website. Maybe we all need to make one 🙂 but it might have to be a whatsapp one if we dont live nearby.
Fortunately my boys are a bit older 12 & 9 so I can have some fun with them. What I cant understand is any paternal family not wanting to be part of a childs life. It really annoys me as children are the best thing ever.3 January 2019 at 3:57 pm #19205
Hi all. Its good to see to you all sharing information and tips. If you have looked and found there is not a Gingerbread Group in your local area, I am happy to support you to set one up. I’m including the link which provides the information on how to do this. https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/community/single-parent-groups/ Just click on the section ‘Set up a group’ and this will provide you with all the information.
Take care all. Justine3 January 2019 at 6:53 pm #19213
I found the local art gallery had free creative days and looking on netmums helped (a single dad!)
I dont know about anyone else but being a single dad although people were friendly to me at my kids scchool there was no way that would blossom into anything.
Sounds a bit bleak! But i found the free things laid on for kids helped meet people more than paid days out…anyone else?3 January 2019 at 7:04 pm #19215
Hi. Yes the single Dad thing registers with me. Feels like a lot of people assume it’s your fault.
I am in the Cheshire area. Luckily my boys play football for our home town and so there is some interaction there. Gets a bit easier as they get old I guess.
Yes, where is http://www.netdads 🙂3 January 2019 at 8:11 pm #19219
I’m near to Manchester and Buxton but my twins are so not three so don’t they I id have the time to juggle setting up a group as if I’m not at work I’m the sole carer for my two and they arnt great at still or quiet lol3 January 2019 at 8:16 pm #19220
It’s comforting to hear I am not alone! I’m in Hertfordshire if anyone else is local to here ?
There aren’t any Gingerbread groups local to me so have applied via link to enquire about setting one up.
I live in a village and find that many parents speak one day and not the next so hasn’t been a great support network for me.3 January 2019 at 9:14 pm #19223
I used to work in Glossop. That sounds it could be near you.
Setting up a group in a village sounds good. I think bigger towns and cities, even with more people can be even lonelier.
I think anyone in a position like ours, wants to know they are not alone.
It’s like starting again in many ways and not knowing how to begin..3 January 2019 at 10:35 pm #19226
Yeh i think its hard as people find there groups and when your outside..! Its tough but dont be disheartened.
I struggled a lot and tried maybe too hard at times to make friends being single with the kids.I know this sounds ridiculous but when i didnt look i made a truly good friend from my daughters school.
Setting up a group sounds a great idea to me,wish there was one in eastbourne.3 January 2019 at 10:36 pm #19227
Mozza ill check out netdads! Wierd how you dont see these things..and i thought i was computer intelligent lol3 January 2019 at 10:38 pm #19228
There is a single dads forum…4 January 2019 at 10:42 pm #19252
Im in Buckinghamshire so not so far. Not sure whereabouts in herts you are but I’ve just seen a gingerbread group in St Albans. Also happy if you want to message me – new friends are always a bonus right!!
Its definitely hard to make new friends, especially if you are working too. I have the same issue – im often not around at drop off / pick up to make school friends. I’m lucky enough to have friends from my childhood in the area but find that when weekends come around they often want to do things with their own families so not always easy to ‘tag aling’
My little one is nearly 4