Hi newbie is anyone else going through a marriage breakdown pre lockdown and now definitely realise you’ve got to split? How are you keeping sane?
I have been in a relationship for a very long time and have a young child and it is me who wants to end it. Some days I feel 100% sure, other days I don’t I guess I am grieving the end of something I thought would last a lifetime plus he is what I call mildly emotionally abusive and controlling, the things he says makes me question things sometimes and experience a huge wave of guilt. But I know it has to be the end, I am so unhappy, I deserve better treatment and I’ve tried to work at it but its not working and behaviours that have happened over the past few months let alone when I think over the years has ruined any chances of working it out.
I am starting to get back into exercise, I am eating well but I need to use this lockdown period to focus on the next step and plan ahead as living together is not helping, neither of us are in a good financial position to just up and leave, we only rent. I find it so stressful being together and at times have to battle for time with my child, this is not the way forward.
Any tips of getting your focus back, there are days that I just don’t have the energy to do anything but I need to get past this as its not going to help me.
It’s especially apparent now if there was anything wrong before all this, for me just trying to get out there and speak to like-minded folk helps centre me a little. I mean, there is a lot of us who don’t get on, don’t sleep together, and don’t like each other who would have just carried on in their unhappy relationships if not given this time to review everything properly.
In all honesty, your situation sounds very similar to mine. If only fresh starts were so easy!