Struggling with depression
13 November 2021 at 7:43 am #62672
Hi I’m jasmin only just joined as I wanted to know if any other single parents struggles with depression and raising children. I have 3 boys and 14, 5 and 2 all very demanding which leaves me feeling so overwhelmed and trapped, I’ve recently been diagnosed with depression and PMDD which makes each day a struggle at times I don’t always want to be down sobbing or irritable, I love my boys to bits but finding it hard doing it alone.
Does anyone have any advice?13 November 2021 at 8:56 am #62673
It’s tough at times. I don’t see my two atm so it’s a struggle. Try and make sure you get some you time, even when they are at school. Can you get someone to look after them? Family? Friends? You should be able to put your youngest into childcare etc soon.13 November 2021 at 9:46 am #62675
I do sympathise . I took my child to be toddler groups from there I made friends and they had a system where they would help each other even if it’s for a couple of hours.
.I didn’t use it but went to work quickly so had childcare in place. I took annual leave and put my child in nursery so that I could sleep.
My one is 7 years old . nobody helped me and the ones that did I paid them . Go on line and see local church group s .you don’t have to be religious to use these groups and they are free. I did miss it when I went back to work and am still in touch .the lady who ran the crèche looks after my child occasion ally if I am going to finish work late .
Hope you feel better and get yourself some fish and give it to your children .try Holland and Barrett13 November 2021 at 4:01 pm #62685
Yes thank you xx13 November 2021 at 4:04 pm #62686
I struggle with depression, it’s so hard. I find seeing friends helps and going to work, but it gets too much sometimes x13 November 2021 at 8:16 pm #62693
Hey. Please do reach out. You have got a lot to deal with so no wonder you feel overwhelmed. Has the gp offered anything to help ie medication counselling etc, referred you to any services??? Mind.org.uk have loads of information and may have local branch. Have you got anyone who can help friends, family? It’s so important that you do get some help, support to help you through. Sometimes when going through tough periods all I can do is take an hour at a time and then I have days when at the end I feel less overwhelmed I feel a bit better…. you can get through this. Just one step at a time. Do people close to you know how much you are struggling…. what can they do to help…. sometimes doesn’t need to be much just popping round for a cuppa, going for a walk, sitting with kids for an hour while you rest… being on the end of the phone when you are having a rubbish day… popping some food over…sending positive energy to you. Take care. X13 November 2021 at 11:02 pm #62695
I’m struggling too , my little one is 22 months and I love him to pieces but have recently lost my mum who I was very close to , also lost both sisters , best friend and my dad the last 10 years .Baby’s father has 2 hours a week at a contact centre and my older children from my late husband are just so cold … my health is terrible – going through a cancer scare at present and I have no network of friends . So I get very down mentally and physically , I think having friends to talk to would help so much … it’s a very lonely existence13 November 2021 at 11:31 pm #62697
Oh no sorry for your loss jf123, yes my mum use to live close by but moved away quite far, so don’t have her support anymore, my friends are always busy and I don’t want to burden them withy problems so keep them to myself.
I’m here for anyone who just wants to talk I know how it feels to feel alone and thinking no one understands.14 November 2021 at 2:35 am #62699
Hello. One step at a time is good advice. There’s plenty of support out there, even if it’s at a distance. It’s reassuring to know that we are not alone. It seems it’s often one step forward and two back. If you want to chat let me know. A problem shared….14 November 2021 at 2:37 am #62700
It is lonely and it’s hard to reach out. Are there local groups to take your child/ren to as appropriate? Parent and toddler? Local mums in park? Check out local children’s centre if there is one.14 November 2021 at 2:42 am #62701
Local libraries have sessions.14 November 2021 at 6:30 pm #62720
is the father able to help out?16 November 2021 at 4:28 pm #62814
Hi J1985, Please look out for a private message from me.16 November 2021 at 5:00 pm #62816
Thank you everyone for your advice and tips, I’ve recently been given some antidepressants and starting talking therapy, I do have family and friends but their all so busy and don’t really understand well to be fair I never talk about my problems as I don’t want to burden anyone.
I’ll take one day at a time and hopefully will become a happier parent to my children