Struggling to let go

[Anon321]

Hello, does anyone have any experience in this? My husband left nearly 3 months ago, we are now in the middle of divorce proceedings and child contact negotiations for our 1 year old. He was never very nice to me and hadn’t shown me any affection since our child was born, making me think he fell out of love with me and stopped fancying me over a year ago. I’m trying to move forward with my life and have joined a dating site to take my mind off things (I’ve not met anyone off there, just chatting to people as it gets very lonely in the evenings on my own). He has found out that I have joined and has since been adding lots of single girls on Facebook. It’s all very hostile between us and he is trying to criticise my parenting and make out that I am unfit etc and has turned lots of people against me. So why do I still miss him and pine for what we had? I know he doesn’t want me and a family life together, and its obvious he doesn’t feel anything for me anymore. When I’m apart from him I just want him to text me and say he’s made a mistake etc, but when I actually see him those feelings disappear and I can’t stand his laugh etc. We were together for 6 years, married for 2. I’m so confused! xxxx

[Gingey28]

Hi hope you are ok

Its natural what you are feeling. Ive not been married but I am on and off with someone for the last year. Many break ups and it still isn’t really working out after we resolve everything and try again its just hostile between us

It is probably a jealous thing thathe adding those on facebook so you can see and its like as you mentionef going on dating sites he will be trying to show he is moving on

It takes time and feelings take time to change. Lots of people going through same on here and so im sure you will get plenty of words of encouragement

Me and my son are in isolation so im really mentally struggling but when nothing can do have to try and focus on basic needs everyday

Here to talk if you want

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